How to Touch a Woman You’ve Just Met

How do I touch a woman when I first meet her?

The 11th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

Tactility (physical touching) is a vital part of interacting with women if you plan on sexually attracting them. Without it, it’s nearly impossible to transition from stranger mode into a woman’s partner prospect. Tactility is what should separate your relationship with a new woman from her relationship with any other guy in the venue (as well as the banter, flirting and teasing you and her are engaging in). So, how do you start tactility off on the right foot? Or any part of her anatomy, for that matter.

Your first goal when it comes to tactility is letting the woman know that you are naturally tactile person. You aren’t a groper, you’re just comfortable with mutual physical touching. By establishing this fact from the outset, you’ll be able to transition into frequent instances of tactility without it  seeming like a sudden shock to the woman. If you go from no touching, to suddenly resting your  hand on the woman’s knee, it will feel intense and forced, like you’ve suddenly decided to get things moving. You obviously don’t want this.

Two very good ways to establish tactility early on are:

The shoulder touch

You lightly touch the outside of the woman’s upper arm as you say something energetic or funny. If you do this wrong, it will seem extremely random and scary. So wait until you know it will feel natural—but don’t wait all night. If you can’t pull off the shoulder touch, you can do a bit of…

Hand tactility

Our hands aren’t a very intimate part of our bodies, because we’re always touching stuff with
them, shaking other people’s hands, etc. So, they are an excellent place to start when you first initiate tactility with a woman. After your opener, transition into normal conversation. Keep the conversation flowing in a fun way, with a bit of joking and teasing thrown in—there should be high energy throughout. Now transition into a topic that relates to men and women in some way.  For example, “Yeah, my little sister is like that. You know what’s crazy, she’s 12 years old but has the same size hands as me. So either I have the hands of a little girl or my sister is a mutant freak.  Obviously I reassure her that the second thing is true. Here…” You then raise your hand palm outwards. The girl in front of you will lift hers and place it against yours to compare sizes. If her hand is roughly the same size as yours, you can quickly say “Mutant freak” then move your hand to the next girl. This is a GREAT way to tease your target and initiate hand tactility with her. Use this routine, because it’s golden.

Source: Black Belt Seduction Crash Course by Matthew William Sharpe