Why The First 20 Seconds are Most Important when Meeting a Woman

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First Impressions with women: The Initial 20 Seconds make ALL the difference.

Here’s how to make the absolute best impression on a girl you’re trying to attract.

We all know about first impressions and how important they are if we want the person we’re meeting to like us.

You should always remember that first impressions formed when trying to attract, are very different to those made at other times and in other social situations, like job interviews.

When you utter your first word to a woman, a clock begins to tick.

20 seconds later an impression has been formed that, although not impossible to change or correct, is cemented in the female’s mind.

Female first impressions of you consist of two things. First, how much the girl likes you. Things like confidence, physical appearance, social proficiency (how well you handle conversation, etc.) are all factored into this first component of the first impression.

The second component is what your intentions are, or what the girl guesses your intentions are – these can be two very different things, but either way your chances with the girl can be destroyed if she perceives your intentions to be anything but likeable and attractive to her.

So, always bear in mind that during the first 20 seconds or so of meeting a girl you need to focus on appearing more attractive and confident than at any other time during your conversation with her.

You also need to ensure you don’t come on too strong and give her too much attention, because doing so could make her think you’re trying to pick her up, which in a girl’s mind is almost always a negative thing.

If you get the first 20 seconds RIGHT, then your chances of successfully making a connection with your target are increased up to 86% (according to our in-field tests).

What Should You Do in the First 20 Seconds?

1. Use an direct or indirect opener.
2. Introduce a false “reason to leave in a second” to relieve pressure on the target group.
3. Use correct body language for the circumstances (alpha, friendly, open etc)
4. Start pre-built conversation routine…

And we’re at 20 seconds… And you’ve opened the group.

NOTE: You know WHAT to do in the first 20 seconds, want to learn HOW to do it? Check out Black Belt Seduction

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4 Things You Need To Do To Boost Confidence with Women

We previously talked about The 10 Rarest Qualities Of The Extinct Man.
Today, I’m going to go into more detail about how YOU can emulate or create these qualities so higher quality women will want you.

Here they are again… 10 qualities women are looking for in men

1. A leader
2. Popular
3. Confident
4. Funny
5. Have social proof (be attractive to other women)
6. Be socially competent and have social intelligence
7. Strong/protective over loved ones
8. Looks/body (have good genes for her offspring)
9. Emotionally wired correctly
10. Have power

See, don’t for a moment assume you have to be all of these things. You just need to DEMONSTRATE some of these qualities…

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A good way to look at it is demonstrate 1 of the above and you WILL be attractive to many women. Demonstrate 2 of them and you’ll be approximately TWICE as attractive… but get this, it increases your success exponentially… So that means, the more you demonstrate the rarer you become… and the more women want you.

Remember, most “nice guys” with average or poor success with women will *demonstrate* ZERO to ONE of the qualities above (remember, it’s not about BEING these things, it’s about DEMONSTRATING these things to your target female)… So, if the average guy has ONE of the above covered, let’s say he’s funny, OR he’s confident, OR he’s pretty good looking then that’s ok… But it’s NORMAL. AVERAGE…

NOT rare at all.

You NEED to be RARE. You NEED to be the almost EXTINCT man…

You NEED to be RARE. You NEED to be the almost EXTINCT man… And just getting 3 or 4 of the qualities DEMONSTRATED and demonstrated CORRECTLY will put you MILES ahead of the game.

So, hopefully now you see what I’m getting at, let’s talk about a quick exercise you can do today that’ll HELP develop these qualities so that when it comes to me showing you how to STEP-BY-STEP DEMONSTRATE them, you’ll be ready…

Now you need to be ready to step out of your comfort zone a little with this but if you DO, you’ll be massively
rewarded… and… Remember, this system is SO powerful, you can screw up on lots of it and it’ll still work out, so don’t sweat it…

We’ll start with confidence.

To generate attraction in  women you need to have the confidence to talk to them.

I don’t care where you are at right now, whether you have bucket loads or you’re a shy guy, either way, try this…

1. Make small talk with 5 people you don’t know TODAY… It doesn’t matter about what. Talk about the weather! It really doesn’t matter. Remember to smile.
2. Go into at least 3 shops with women working in them and ask questions about a product and or buy something… and when talking to them USE THEIR NAME at least 3 times, it’s usually on their name badge. Remember, again, smile, be friendly and don’t be creepy.
3. As you walk around a mall or park or wherever, just say “Hi” to 10 people with a smile. Men or women it doesn’t matter.
4. This one’s optional and for those really wanting to step out of their comfort zone. Dress in something really strange, like a big jumbo Jackson five hair piece or something and walk around for 20 minutes in a crowded place, just smiling.

This will do WONDERS for your confidence. Don’t believe me? Try it. It’s all about stepping out of your comfort zone and making an effort to do so.

There are LOADS of other ways to massively boost confidence, and some much less embarrassing ones inside the full Black Belt Seduction course, but these should be enough to get you started.

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