Meeting and Attracting Women – The Basics

How Do I Start to Meet and Attract Women?

Source: Black Belt Seduction Crash Course

The first in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

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That’s a good question. There is no official place to ‘start’ because not all men are the same. If every man was equally inept in certain areas and equally skilled in the rest, then we could have a nice clear starting point, middle point and ending point—but they aren’t and we can’t. This crash course is probably the best place to start because it gives you a little bit of information on a lot of different areas. These areas, of course, have been selected because they feature in the list of questions most men have when they’re just starting out this game.They’re  the core topics, if you like. But how about some more specific instructions, aside from working your way through this course. Let’s have a look.

Get your style and appearance up to scratch

There’s no point disadvantaging yourself from the outset. It’s important you exhibit up-to-date style in the way you dress and generally present yourself. You don’t have to be one of these straight-off-the-catwalk types, or a guy who spends more time staring in the mirror than the women he’s hoping to attract; just make sure you’re presenting your physical self in the best light possible. Look in the store windows of popular male fashion outlets, take a look in some men’s magazines and look at the styles and dress-sense of men who already appear to be successful in the dating game. There are some rights and wrongs (choosing ugly shoes, wearing garish colors, wearing sunglasses indoors, having a goofy haircut, etc.), but you don’t have to worry too much about pulling off a specific image—develop your own style based on trends that you know are currently attractive and representative of a socially-intelligent guy.

Start going-out a lot

You might hate trying to meet women in nightclubs, or nightclubs might be your favorite places to hang out and socialize. Either way, by going to nightclubs and bars regularly, you effectively develop and hone your social skills. You get used to being around groups of people (who you’ll sooner or later be approaching and talking to) and you generally get to feel comfortable in that environment.

Learn the most basic principles and arm yourself with a couple of choice tools

You’ll probably read this whole course before starting to go out there and make some approaches, but nevertheless at this early point in your journey, you should make sure you learn the most basic principles WELL and choose a couple of techniques you can rely on to help you get through your first approaches and conversations. For learn the most basic and useful principles, you should refer to the following sections of this crash course.

WHAT IS VALUE AND HOW DO I POSSESS IT?

WHAT IS ATTRACTIVE MALE BODY LANGUAGE?

HOW DO I BEAT APPROACH ANXIETY?

HOW DO I INVENT MY OWN OPENERS?

HOW DO I KEEP CONVERSATION FLOWING?

Click any of those titles to jump to the relevant topic.

With just those basic pieces of knowledge under your belt, you’ll be ready to start practising being ‘pickup artist’.

Once you know about value and attractive male and body language, you’ll be attractive to a lot of women. Once you’ve started to remove your approach anxiety, you’ll be able to go up to a group of women and start talking to them without too much fear. Once you know how to invent your own openers, you’ll be able to turn your approaches into conversations that last more than 60 seconds and which have the potential to turn into attraction-based interactions. And, finally, once you know how keep conversation flowing you’ll…well…you’ll be set. Those topics will give you a basic skill-set and THAT is where you should start.

-From author Matthew William Sharpe , Black Belt Seduction

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