Your Best Method to Get Her to Say YES

The Power of Positive Responses

Towards the end of your conversation with a girl, just before you get her phone number or arrange a date, it pays to ask her a few consecutive questions that you know she’ll answer ‘yes’ to.

Her positive responses temporarily instil a sense of compliance and agreement in her subliminal mind. She basically becomes more likely to answer ‘yes’ to your most important, closing question or statement.

Like “We should grab a coffee tomorrow, don’t you think?”

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How to Touch a Woman You’ve Just Met

How do I touch a woman when I first meet her?

The 11th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

Tactility (physical touching) is a vital part of interacting with women if you plan on sexually attracting them. Without it, it’s nearly impossible to transition from stranger mode into a woman’s partner prospect. Tactility is what should separate your relationship with a new woman from her relationship with any other guy in the venue (as well as the banter, flirting and teasing you and her are engaging in). So, how do you start tactility off on the right foot? Or any part of her anatomy, for that matter.

Your first goal when it comes to tactility is letting the woman know that you are naturally tactile person. You aren’t a groper, you’re just comfortable with mutual physical touching. By establishing this fact from the outset, you’ll be able to transition into frequent instances of tactility without it  seeming like a sudden shock to the woman. If you go from no touching, to suddenly resting your  hand on the woman’s knee, it will feel intense and forced, like you’ve suddenly decided to get things moving. You obviously don’t want this.

Two very good ways to establish tactility early on are:

The shoulder touch

You lightly touch the outside of the woman’s upper arm as you say something energetic or funny. If you do this wrong, it will seem extremely random and scary. So wait until you know it will feel natural—but don’t wait all night. If you can’t pull off the shoulder touch, you can do a bit of…

Hand tactility

Our hands aren’t a very intimate part of our bodies, because we’re always touching stuff with
them, shaking other people’s hands, etc. So, they are an excellent place to start when you first initiate tactility with a woman. After your opener, transition into normal conversation. Keep the conversation flowing in a fun way, with a bit of joking and teasing thrown in—there should be high energy throughout. Now transition into a topic that relates to men and women in some way.  For example, “Yeah, my little sister is like that. You know what’s crazy, she’s 12 years old but has the same size hands as me. So either I have the hands of a little girl or my sister is a mutant freak.  Obviously I reassure her that the second thing is true. Here…” You then raise your hand palm outwards. The girl in front of you will lift hers and place it against yours to compare sizes. If her hand is roughly the same size as yours, you can quickly say “Mutant freak” then move your hand to the next girl. This is a GREAT way to tease your target and initiate hand tactility with her. Use this routine, because it’s golden.

Source: Black Belt Seduction Crash Course by Matthew William Sharpe

How Should I Talk to a Girl?

How to  keep conversation flowing

The 11th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

YOU:“So, you from around here?”

HER: “Well, I live about half an hour away.”

YOU: “Oh, right. You been here all your life then?”

HER: “Yeah, pretty much!”

YOU: “Cool. And…erm…what kind of stuff do you like?”

HER: “I don’t know. Normal stuff really.”

YOU: ”Cool. Bye!” *RUNS*

This is a pretty typical example of the problem men face when in conversation with a woman they barely know, whom they’d love to sexually attract. Because they’ve never met, they don’t know anything about each other. As a result, they’ve got all their work ahead of them. They need to cover hobbies, likes and dislikes, favorite music, current dating status, where they live, what they work as…blah, blah, blah. It’s hard work sometimes, which is why some women don’t enjoy the idea of launching into long conversations with guys they don’t now (and who are probably only talking to them for one reason anyway).

So, based on these facts, you should start all conversations with women in a very specific way; it should be fun, unserious and NOT too deep.

• Don’t start reeling questions off at her. She WILL answer them, but she probably WON’T enjoy the conversation, because it’s so one-sided. Think about it, is you asking a hundred questions a good demonstration of independent high social value? No. Why do you care so much? Whyaren’t you laid back enough to allow HER to speak and ask you questions?

• Avoid the standard questions until later. Don’t ask what she works as…don’t ask anything like that. If you have to ask a standard question, make sure it’s preceded and followed by a fun, unusual statement or question.

• Learn the art of prompting. This is a great way to give the woman an opportunity to speak without asking her a question (which can feel way too much like an interview). She says something, like “Well, I wouldn’t say I LOVE my job. It’s okay.” And you prompt her to speak
  again by saying something like “Yeah, I bet you’re always wandering around the office talking to all the boys.” Think how much better a slightly teasing statement like this is than a question like “How long have you worked there?” Most men never venture out of the safe zone when they’re in conversation with women, which is no doubt why they never get to venture into attraction land with those same women.

• Remember that you don’t need to always be in a one-to-one conversation with your ‘target’ woman (if we have to use the word ‘target’). In fact, it’s often better to be talking as part of a her of the threesome (you, plus the target, plus one of your friends or friends).This releases a lot of the tension because neither you or your target has to be speaking to keep the conversation alive, thanks to that extra person. You can also say things to the third party person that tease your target. You can ask them questions about her in FRONT her, of which always fun.

• Finally, as long as you stay really relaxed and don’t look panicked when the conversation slows it should be fine. If you feel you and target down bit (don’t immediately jump in to save it, etc.), slipping into the standard back-and-forth conversation model, switch it up by bringing someone else in or taking her to meet your friends at another location within the venue. Keep things  changing and the conversation will keep on flowing.

Source: Black Belt Seduction Crash Course by Matthew William Sharpe

Meeting and Attracting Women – The Basics

How Do I Start to Meet and Attract Women?

Source: Black Belt Seduction Crash Course

The first in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

That’s a good question. There is no official place to ‘start’ because not all men are the same. If every man was equally inept in certain areas and equally skilled in the rest, then we could have a nice clear starting point, middle point and ending point—but they aren’t and we can’t. This crash course is probably the best place to start because it gives you a little bit of information on a lot of different areas. These areas, of course, have been selected because they feature in the list of questions most men have when they’re just starting out this game.They’re  the core topics, if you like. But how about some more specific instructions, aside from working your way through this course. Let’s have a look.

Get your style and appearance up to scratch

There’s no point disadvantaging yourself from the outset. It’s important you exhibit up-to-date style in the way you dress and generally present yourself. You don’t have to be one of these straight-off-the-catwalk types, or a guy who spends more time staring in the mirror than the women he’s hoping to attract; just make sure you’re presenting your physical self in the best light possible. Look in the store windows of popular male fashion outlets, take a look in some men’s magazines and look at the styles and dress-sense of men who already appear to be successful in the dating game. There are some rights and wrongs (choosing ugly shoes, wearing garish colors, wearing sunglasses indoors, having a goofy haircut, etc.), but you don’t have to worry too much about pulling off a specific image—develop your own style based on trends that you know are currently attractive and representative of a socially-intelligent guy.

Start going-out a lot

You might hate trying to meet women in nightclubs, or nightclubs might be your favorite places to hang out and socialize. Either way, by going to nightclubs and bars regularly, you effectively develop and hone your social skills. You get used to being around groups of people (who you’ll sooner or later be approaching and talking to) and you generally get to feel comfortable in that environment.

Learn the most basic principles and arm yourself with a couple of choice tools

You’ll probably read this whole course before starting to go out there and make some approaches, but nevertheless at this early point in your journey, you should make sure you learn the most basic principles WELL and choose a couple of techniques you can rely on to help you get through your first approaches and conversations. For learn the most basic and useful principles, you should refer to the following sections of this crash course.

WHAT IS VALUE AND HOW DO I POSSESS IT?

WHAT IS ATTRACTIVE MALE BODY LANGUAGE?

HOW DO I BEAT APPROACH ANXIETY?

HOW DO I INVENT MY OWN OPENERS?

HOW DO I KEEP CONVERSATION FLOWING?

Click any of those titles to jump to the relevant topic.

With just those basic pieces of knowledge under your belt, you’ll be ready to start practising being ‘pickup artist’.

Once you know about value and attractive male and body language, you’ll be attractive to a lot of women. Once you’ve started to remove your approach anxiety, you’ll be able to go up to a group of women and start talking to them without too much fear. Once you know how to invent your own openers, you’ll be able to turn your approaches into conversations that last more than 60 seconds and which have the potential to turn into attraction-based interactions. And, finally, once you know how keep conversation flowing you’ll…well…you’ll be set. Those topics will give you a basic skill-set and THAT is where you should start.

-From author Matthew William Sharpe , Black Belt Seduction

20 Methods You Can Use to Attract Women

The Basics

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We’re starting a new series of free tips & tricks on how to meet and attract women. Here are 20 topics in which you can easily implement to meet and attract women. These are the basics… some of them may be no-brainers but we’re sure there are at least a few tricks you might not have realized.

Forward from the author, Matthew William Sharpe :

You could say that once a guy discovers that the attraction and seduction of women can be handled more like a step-by-step system than a game of chance, his journey begins. From that point onwards, his social life is different, because instead of being in a club wondering ‘Will I get lucky tonight?’ he thinks ‘Which group of people shall I approach, interact with, select a woman from and succeed not in ‘getting lucky’ but in getting ATTRACTION?’.

I don’t know how acquainted you are with the subject of picking up women, if you want to call it that, but regardless of your current degree of understanding and level of experience, this crash course will serve you in the same way. It has been put together to give you a strong overall view of the art of attraction and seduction, the Black Belt Seduction way. Instead of being a goat on the ground, forced to bumble your way through your first lessons, you’re a bird soaring in the sky. You are able to look down and get a very calm and comprehensive summary of everything you need to know to start your journey into the world of the pickup artist on the right foot.

So let’s not waste any time.

1. Basics of Meeting & Attracting Women
2. Do women perceive me as valuable? What is value to women?
3. Do looks or money matter to women?
4. What is attractive male body language?
5. Does a lack of sexual experience matter to women?
6. Does age matter when attracting females?
7. How to beat approach anxiety
8. How to invent your own pick up line ‘openers’
9. How do I know if a woman is attracted to me?
10. How to talk to a girl
11. How to touch a woman when you first meet
12. How to get a girls number
13. When and How to kiss a woman
14. How to build comfort
15. What to do after meeting a girl
16. How to arrange a second date with a girl
17. How to meet women during the day
18. How to avoid being ‘just friends’
19. How to handle phone calls from girls
20. How to handle text messages from women

All of these issues are covered in WAY more detail in Matthew William Sharpe’s eBook series. He’s got a pretty good setup: if you sign up for his newsletter he’ll send you A TON of free content (including the free pdf ebook download “Crash Course” in Black Belt Seduction from which this help series is based)

Check out all the stuff that Matthew is giving away: here