Do Women Like Men With Cocky Attitudes?

David:

As a female subscriber I’d like to admit to consciously falling for many of the techniques outlined in your newsletter. I’m a nineteen year old college girl and have been dating my boyfriend for four years. His occasional disinterest in me only makes me want him more. He doesn’t call or email me as often as i call him or think it necessary that we spend every weekend together and i know he has a life other than me (i find this terribly attractive). His body language or habit of “taking up space and leaning back” is irresistible and his cocky attitude has been making me hot for years. I want to tell your male subscribers not to lose the cocky/funny routine after they have found a girl they like; not just to keep her, but to attract other girls as well. i find it a huge turn on when i catch other girls checking out my guy.

Response from David Deangelo, author of Double your Dating

Ah, yes. Thanks for the comments. Next time do tell more about the whole “I find it a huge turn on when I catch other girls checking out my guy” thing.

Attract More Women Today: 5 Crucial Tips

Here are so more tips that will help you out with your real life game…

1. How’s this for common sense? GO TO THE GYM!  Keep fit and healthy.  Not only will you look better, but you’ll be more confident
   and just generally feel better.
2. Go shopping with somebody who knows how to dress… PROPERLY!  Sure, everyone has their own unique style.  And I’m not saying you have to dress up in funny-looking hats and paint your fingernails black to “peacock”… but wear something NICE. Go shopping with a friend that has great style.  Or, even better, bring a girl along with you.
3. Get a tan.
4. STAND UP STRAIGHT!  Body language, body language, body language!  It is said that 93% of all communication is non-verbal. That’s right.  A massive portion of your game has to do with how your physical body communicates.
5. I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again! Learn from someone who KNOWS THEIR STUFF.

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Attractive Male Body Language – How to achieve it.

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The 4th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

The sole purpose of language, regardless of what kind of language it is, is to arrange information in special ways so that it can be used to achieve something. A programming language follows this rule, a verbal language follows it and, of course, body language adheres to it too.
It’s important that you exhibit the right kind of body language when you are around women because if you exhibit the wrong kind, you risk appearing as one or more of the following things:

• Unconfident
• Unsure of yourself
• Anxious
• Nervous
• Inexperienced
• Out of your depth
• A follower, not a leader
• Unmotivated
• Embarrassed
• Confused

None of those things attractive. You need to exhibit the opposite of all of those things to appear sexually attractive to the opposite sex. So, how do you do that?  We must know what your body language needs to say before we can go over how it’s going to say it. You want your body language to show the following about you:

• You feel dominant, but not overly so, over your environment and the people in it
• You feel comfortable and calm
• You are sure of yourself
• You are masculine
• You are positive
• You have power and energy
• You are in control

Now, how do you convey all of those positive attributes through the things you do with your body?

Economy of movement

To look laid-back and sure of yourself, you need to be economical with your body movements. In other words, don’t move more than you have to. We’re not talking about being a zombie or a vegetable. We’re talking about removing all of the superfluous, unnecessary movements and actions from your body language, because they are so often products of anxiety and insecurity. If you remove the products of anxiety, you effectively remove any evidence of it—women therefore see you as confident.

The kinds of unnecessary actions and movements we’re talking about are:

• Touching your face (or touching your lips) when you don’t need to (when most people touch their faces, it’s not to scratch an itch or brush away some dust, it’s because their emotions are telling them to release some tension through movement).
• Fidgeting, shifting your weight from one side to another, from one foot to the other, etc.(some have even asked is fidgeting unhealthy… in some cases it may be a sign of narcosis)
• Showing unnecessary facial expressions, like raising your eyebrows too much, pursing your lips, biting your lips, biting the inside of your cheek, etc.
• Fiddling with objects, like a drink, a button, something in your pocket, etc.

You get the idea. The reason you want to remove these kinds of things from your body language is because the only reason you’d do them would be due to your mind experiencing anxiety or worry— and that’s not something you want women to see.

Speed and flow of movement

For all other movements, you want to make sure you move fluidly and smoothly. Don’t jerk your hands about or snatch for things, like drinks. Go slower, but not too slow. Just focus on your actions being calm.

Casualness and Relaxedness

To look relaxed and casual, you should remember to stay loose. Tension in your shoulders should be released. Take a look at the following photo-realistic illustrations.

The top one shows the guy sitting next to the girl. He is leaning towards her as they speak. So many men do this. They think it’s good to look like you’re listening and focussed on the woman, so they lean right in to get their heads closer to her. The trouble with doing this is that you don’t look relaxed; you look tense. If you are leaning forward, your muscles must be tensed and the woman knows this. By leaning forward, you show that you’re a bit too interested in what the woman is saying—you’re outcome dependant, desperate to make the conversation go well and keep it from dying. It’s like you want the woman to focus on only you, so you get right up close to her. A much more relaxed, casual and confident thing to do is sit straight or even lean back a little. You can still hear the woman and if you need to raise your voice a little so she can hear you, you do just that. This way, you look calm and not overly committed to the conversation (which is attractive to the woman).
The bottom left illustration shows the importance of having good posture. You should keep your back straight, your shoulders rolled back but still relaxed and your chin up. Having the right posture can make the difference between looking tired, bored, unconfident and unhealthy and looking strong, awake, healthy and confident.

The bottom right illustration shows how leaning against something can instantly make you look more relaxed and casual. When you stand bolt upright as you talk to a woman, you look too alert, like you’re ready to sprint away at the first sign of danger. A confident, relaxed guy doesn’t appear this way. He is secure enough to relax against a wall or sit back against his seat, instead of leaning forward.

Dominance and Control

The more space you take up around you, the more dominant you tend to look. So, when you sit down, stretch out your legs a little, instead of keeping tucked under your seat. Rest your elbow on something next to you. Recline a little. Don’t do it too much, or you’ll look try-hard.

Walking

A confident attractive male walk goes like this. You should look like you’re walking to get somewhere, but you aren’t rushing to get there. You’re walking with purpose but not haste. Your chin should be up, your arms should be relaxed and moving calmly by your sides, your back should be straight and your chest should be pushed out just a little bit—too much and you’ll look stupid. Look at guys in movies. Pick one that looks like he has the kind of confidence you want and study his walk. Adopt the positive things you notice.