The 8th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

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An opener is a statement or a question that you use to start a conversation with a  woman or a group of people containing women. There are good openers and there are bad openers.

Good openers follow these rules.

• They are unusual and not boring. They are not what women usually get asked by random men.
• They are high value. The man should not be seeking approval from the woman or showing toomuch interest in her too soon.
• They should be fairly short, so that the women don’t tune out halfway through the  opener. If there can be a little bit of humor in the opener, then it’s a benefit.
• The opener shouldn’t feel too contrived, like it’s purely a way to start talking to the women. It  so to not just feel like they should appear to have a me depth. The women should wantrespond, have to.

The problem a lot of guys who are just starting out this game comfortable using canned material pre-written or planned openers. First, they usually don’t feel like the openers match their personalities, which makes them harder to deliver effectively, and second,  ener obviously wouldn’t be a good they worry that the woman will have heard the opbefore—which  thing.

First off, most openers aren’t that common and no opener is more common than the most frequently used pick-up lines. So you don’t need to worry that much about getting caught out. Next, the openers won’t feel natural for you. This can be a more important issue, because one vital ingredient for an opener  oing well is naturalness. If you look uncomfortable or unsure of what you’re saying when you deliver the opener,  it is going to die, along with your chances of attracting one of the women.

Here is what is recommended you do when you’re just starting out.

• Use the best canned material you can at the very start. Select 3-5 great openers and trial them to see which two are the best, then select the one which beats all the rest. Use that one to build your  confidence and hone your approach skills.
• Adapt your two best openers so that they match your personality and delivery style a little more.  earn from what you’ve been experiencing; when you’ve delivered your openers, which choice of  ords, speed of delivery and level of energy worked best?
• Now invent your own opener based on the 5 rules you’ve just learned. Make it quick, interesting and unusual and deliver it confidently and WITHOUT it seeming like all you’re trying to do is wriggle your way into the group.

For example, some well known and very successful openers relate to the differences  between men and  women. Women seem to like talking about this kind of thing when they’re huddled in groups, because it can be quite controversial and gossipy. So, based on that knowledge, you can invent your own opener.

Which of the following two openers would you say is best?

1. “Hey, quick question. Do you think guys are better at reading maps than women?”

2. “Hey, I need an opinion on something important. Do you girls think it’s okay for a guy to carry an umbrella? *Yeah, sure!* What about if he carries it even when it’s sunny, to keep the heat off him?”

The second one is better, because it’s more unusual, more specific, more interesting and more  humorous.

Source: Black Belt Seduction Crash Course by Matthew William Sharpe