How Should I Talk to a Girl?

How to  keep conversation flowing

The 11th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

YOU:“So, you from around here?”

HER: “Well, I live about half an hour away.”

YOU: “Oh, right. You been here all your life then?”

HER: “Yeah, pretty much!”

YOU: “Cool. And…erm…what kind of stuff do you like?”

HER: “I don’t know. Normal stuff really.”

YOU: ”Cool. Bye!” *RUNS*

This is a pretty typical example of the problem men face when in conversation with a woman they barely know, whom they’d love to sexually attract. Because they’ve never met, they don’t know anything about each other. As a result, they’ve got all their work ahead of them. They need to cover hobbies, likes and dislikes, favorite music, current dating status, where they live, what they work as…blah, blah, blah. It’s hard work sometimes, which is why some women don’t enjoy the idea of launching into long conversations with guys they don’t now (and who are probably only talking to them for one reason anyway).

So, based on these facts, you should start all conversations with women in a very specific way; it should be fun, unserious and NOT too deep.

• Don’t start reeling questions off at her. She WILL answer them, but she probably WON’T enjoy the conversation, because it’s so one-sided. Think about it, is you asking a hundred questions a good demonstration of independent high social value? No. Why do you care so much? Whyaren’t you laid back enough to allow HER to speak and ask you questions?

• Avoid the standard questions until later. Don’t ask what she works as…don’t ask anything like that. If you have to ask a standard question, make sure it’s preceded and followed by a fun, unusual statement or question.

• Learn the art of prompting. This is a great way to give the woman an opportunity to speak without asking her a question (which can feel way too much like an interview). She says something, like “Well, I wouldn’t say I LOVE my job. It’s okay.” And you prompt her to speak
  again by saying something like “Yeah, I bet you’re always wandering around the office talking to all the boys.” Think how much better a slightly teasing statement like this is than a question like “How long have you worked there?” Most men never venture out of the safe zone when they’re in conversation with women, which is no doubt why they never get to venture into attraction land with those same women.

• Remember that you don’t need to always be in a one-to-one conversation with your ‘target’ woman (if we have to use the word ‘target’). In fact, it’s often better to be talking as part of a her of the threesome (you, plus the target, plus one of your friends or friends).This releases a lot of the tension because neither you or your target has to be speaking to keep the conversation alive, thanks to that extra person. You can also say things to the third party person that tease your target. You can ask them questions about her in FRONT her, of which always fun.

• Finally, as long as you stay really relaxed and don’t look panicked when the conversation slows it should be fine. If you feel you and target down bit (don’t immediately jump in to save it, etc.), slipping into the standard back-and-forth conversation model, switch it up by bringing someone else in or taking her to meet your friends at another location within the venue. Keep things  changing and the conversation will keep on flowing.

Source: Black Belt Seduction Crash Course by Matthew William Sharpe

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