Why you shouldn’t ask a girl out on a first date.

Too many men ruin what could have been successful interactions with women by, right at the end, suggesting they go on a one-on-one date together.

Most of the time the girl will make an excuse and say she can’t do anything that week but that she’ll call him to arrange something soon.

You don’t have to be Einstein to realize that she’s totally lost interest in him and the idea of dating him when this kind of thing happens.

So what is it about the one-on-one date idea that so often kills the chemistry and attraction that’s been successfully built up between a guy and a girl?

Well, it’s actually three things.

First, when a guy suggests a one-on-one date after only having one conversation with a girl (even if it lasts a few hours), he’s making quite a definite, bold statement. He’s saying, “I like you so much that I’m willing to forego all other women here and elsewhere, from today until after we’ve had our thing, whatever may or may not come of it.”

This is such an intense statement, that, although it’s unspoken, makes it as clear as day in the female’s mind that the balance of power between her and the guy is totally tipped in her favor.

She sees what a massive effect she’s had on him and, usually, isn’t too impressed by how easy it was to win him over.

Now, that doesn’t mean to say that suggesting a one-on-one date with a girl is always a bad idea – just that it can often be a terrible one if done wrongly.

So, as a safe and effective alternative to setting up a dinner date or trip to the movies with a woman, try this. At the end of your successful interaction, in which time you’ve built mutually felt sexual chemistry, attraction and comfort between yourself and the girl, ask her if she’d like to tag along with you and a few other people to an event or social gathering.

Just make sure that she knows that doing or going to this thing will be you, her and OTHER PEOPLE

It can be anything: a group shopping trip, a house-warming party, a music event, etc. Just make sure that she knows that doing or going to this thing will be you, her and OTHER PEOPLE.

This achieves the following:

1. She feels less like it’s a date between you and her and therefore doesn’t feel as though she has any real power over you.
This maintains the “chase” aspect of your developing relationship and therefore keeps her interested in attracting you.

2. During the event or social gathering, she’ll have a chance to see you as a social person, with lots of friends and contacts. This
boosts your personal worth in her mind and she finds you more appealing because of that fact.

3. While you’re in the group (which consists of your friends plus her) you’ll have a chance to continue to work your magic on her.
After a few hours she’ll be dying to set up that one-on-one date that, only a few days previous, would have totally turned her off
the idea of dating you. Now she can’t think of anything she’d rather do.

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