What to NEVER say to a woman…. EVER. (VIDEO)

Here’s a huge mistake that almost every guy makes when he’s trying to show a woman that he has sexual confidence. If you are making this mistake too, then you’re actually causing women to lose interest in you by accident. I just posted a free video of my buddy Dan Rose explaining the whole mistake and how to avoid it.

Edit: Before you view the video, check this out

It’s a short video, so go watch it now (it could save your sex life):

http://getmoregirlfriends.com/blog/?p=29

One of the most important things you can learn how to do when attracting women is to project a sexually confident vibe. Most guys TRY to do that, but they often make one big mistake that leaves women turned off and will probably cause her to make fun of his sexual skills behind is back. Do you make this mistake? Watch the video and find out.

Be sure to leave a comment after you’re done watching. Do you know anyone that makes this mistake? Have you made it in the past? Tell us about it.

- Wayne Ross

P.S. – Don’t underestimate the power of this lesson. I
personally have known dozens of men that make this exact
same mistake when they’re trying to impress a woman they’ve
just met.

Is Dating Really A Numbers Game?

Discover the truth behind the philosophy that says dating is merely a numbers game.

Sure, many people say it, but they don’t give you a way to improve your numbers. Hold on tight, because this issue is going to talk about just that very subject.

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying before that “Dating is a numbers game”.

Well in this post, you’re going to learn how this principal applies in the real world, and how you can use it to improve your ability to meet women.

First of all, what does that mean… dating is a numbers game? How does that actually work in the real world?

The reason you’ll hear so many people talking about dating as a numbers game is because of this simple truth. The more doors you knock on, the more will open.

Now there’s two ways to increase the amount of women in your life. The first one is to simple knock on more doors, and statistically… you will get more doors that open for you.

What that means is… the more women you approach, and ask out… the more women you are going to have saying yes. The flip side of that is you will also have more women saying “no” too.

The second way to get more women is to learn how to get a higher percentage of those doors to open. Let’s say you approach 20 women, and only 1 of them is interested in seeing you for a first date.

That’s a 5% “yes ratio”. Now, you could just approach 100 women, and get 5 “yes’s”, and that would be fine. You’d have 5 women in your life, and you’d be happy.

But let’s be honest, do you really want to have to go through 95 “no’s” to get to 5 “yes’s”?

I didn’t think so.

But what if you could learn how to get 4 or 5 yes’s for every 20 women you talked to? Wouldn’t that be much easier, and smarter than bulldozing your way through 100 women?

So what should I focus on first?

The first thing to work on is your approach, of course. The more women you approach, the more chances for first dates you will have. Try experimenting with these aspects of the approach to see what combination works best for you.

• Try smiling when you walk up VS. smirking.
• Try saying “Hi there” instead of just “Hi”
• Try complimenting her on a specific feature, instead of just telling her she’s beautiful.

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Illusion Of Confidence

Confidence is an Illusion!

You might be asking yourself why I am saying that confidence is an illusion, and you would be right to do so. So many dating books talk about how important it is to be confident when approaching women.

But is that really the answer?

Let me ask you something, when you call up your best friend and ask him or her if she wants to go to the movies tonight… do you have to get your confidence level up before you call? Let’s say you call up your friend Mark, and ask him to go out to the movies with you tonight, and he says, “Nah, I want to stay home tonight and watch TV.”

Do you feel rejected and walk away from the phone with your head down? Of course not, in fact you probably give him a hard time about it.You might joke with him, and call him a couch potato. You might start to tell him how great the movie is that you want to go see. Hell, you might even just offer to pay for his ticket.

My point is, you don’t worry about rejection. It’s not a personal failure if Mark says no… in fact, you know that because this movie is going to be so good… that it’s actually his loss.

Here’s the thing that most people don’t realize. Confidence is the natural result of not having any of those fears that get in your way. People who you think are confident… really are not. They are just busy doing what they do, and NOT getting in their own way.

Are you confident that you can do your job well, no matter what your job is? Do you have to even think about it? Probably not.

You see, confidence is not necessary when you have skill and experience. There’s many ways that you can get skill and experience, and the worst way is to do it by trial and error. The smartest way to gain skill and experience is to learn from people who have already done what you want to do. If you want to learn how to be successful with girls, then the best thing to do is learn from someone who is already successful with girls.

-Wayne Ross

Eliminate Your Fear of Approaching Women

Here’s how to totally eradicate your fear of walking up to a woman

Courtesy of Mr. M.(one of the other Black Belt Seduction instructors).

Literally walking up to or otherwise getting close to a girl or group of girls and beginning a conversation with them can be extremely daunting and even scary for a guy–even if he’s usually confident and self-assured.

Approaching a girl or group in this way is simply known as ‘opening’ and it is one of the biggest fears and obstacles guys have trouble with when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex with the goal of attracting them in mind.

It’s not hard to see why.

Approaching and opening involves quite a large investment of effort on your part and seems, at first glance, to come with a fair amount of risk associated with it.

Let’s first look at the reasons men have trouble confidently approaching and opening. Then we’ll look at how you can bypass your approach anxiety and thereby open successfully whenever and wherever you choose to do so.

The mains reasons men fear the approach are:

• They’re scared of immediately getting shot down, rejected and made a fool of by the girl they start a conversation with  They think that the girl will immediately think that they’re trying to pick them up and seduce them and will therefore be extremely unenthusiastic about the idea of having anything like a normal, fun conversation with them
• Because of their insecurities, guys worry that a few minutes into the conversation with a girl, they’ll lose their initial feeling of confidence and slowly begin to unravel and lose it
• Men know that a successful pick-up involves more than just approaching and opening and therefore look ahead to the other stages of seduction and worry about them. They think how hard the
• conversation will be to maintain, for example, and how tricky it will be to close at the end of the chat and get a good result from it, like the girl’s phone number or a date with her
• They ponder over what guys who are already in the vicinity of the girl they’re interested in will think when they approach and get talking to her. ‘Will they see that I’m trying to pick-up the girl and try to thwart my attempt?’

There are other reasons guys fear the approach, but the remaining ones I haven’t listed fall into similar categories to the ones you’ve just read. They mainly relate to fears of being laughed at by the girl or otherwise rejected.

The first thing you need to do to conquer any fear of approaching you may have, is read, contemplate and truly understand and believe the following two concepts:

1. It’s vitally important that you forget about the goal of attracting women when you’re out on a daily basis. When you make the mistake of mainly thinking about the end goal in this way, you overload your brain with a mass of obstacles, problems and difficulties. Put simply, you cast your attention too far into the future and by doing so make things seem harder and more impossible than they really ever should be.

Instead, you should always concentrate on the sub-stages of attraction – the smaller steps and not the larger ones further down the line. So when you’re approaching women, DO NOT actively think about how you’re going to finally get her number or what you’re going to talk about in an hour’s time. Let your interactions with women take on an organic, free-flowing nature.

2. “How am I supposed to not think about the actual conversation, when it’s going to follow only moments after my opener? And how am I supposed to keep my mind off the problem of closing, when that’s the only thing that’s going to make my interactions with women truly successful?” The answer is: have faith in yourself. If you’re able to have a fun, lively conversation with one of your male friends, then you can do the same with an attractive woman. You just need to be laid back and unconcerned with what the outcome of your conversation will be.

Once you’ve completely taken on board the two concepts above, read over the following quick rules of thumb. Remembering and trusting in them will really help you approach and start talking to women confidently and  effectively:

The realistic worst-case scenario of an approach will never, ever be as bad as you might imagine. If a girl simply doesn’t seem to want to talk to you, that’s fine. You’re free to simply move on and talk to someone else. Her loss. Stay friendly and sociable and it will be the girls who don’t want to talk to you who will come off badly and seem frosty and unfriendly.

When you approach, only have the following at the forefront of your mind: I’m going to start and maintain a fun and interesting conversation with this girl. By thinking along these lines, you take out all of the sleaze of the interaction and the girls you talk to will sense this and like it.

Women have no problem talking to guys they don’t know if those guys are friendly, confident and interesting. You ARE all three of these things, so don’t worry about girls not wanting to chat to you because they’re uninterested in the idea of getting to know you.

Girls, the vast majority of the time, don’t do the approaching.

They don’t make the first move.

This is the case because they don’t need to – they know men will do it. This is one aspect of social life between the sexes in which women have the lion’s share of the power over men.

But don’t let that be a negative thing. Instead, remember this fact: because women leave the approaching and opening to men, when it happens in a positive and attractive way, they EMBRACE and enjoy it. Women dig it when guys approach them and bowl them over with their charisma, charm, confidence and humor. You’ve only got to watch a couple of chick flicks to see evidence of this fact.

Get more great info like this from Black Belt Seduction by Matthew William Sharpe

How to Beat Approach Anxiety

Approach Women Confidently and Successfully

The 7th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

How do I beat approach anxiety?

First let’s define what approach anxiety is. The pure definition of approach anxiety is:

The feeling of nervousness, apprehension and dread you experience while contemplating the idea of approaching a woman or group of people containing women with the intention of trying to create attraction.

In fact, not just while contemplating approaching them, but also while you’re physically walking towards them and when you open your mouth to speak your first words.

Approach anxiety sucks

The physical symptoms include a dry mouth, profuse sweating, a lump in your throat, nervous body language, feelings of self-doubt and an overall drop in mood. Approach anxiety sucks, because for most men it’s the only thing that’s stopping them from being able to meet, interact with and hopefully attract new women. But for some reason all men experience it to some degree or another. Let’s briefly see why that is.

The Causes of Approach Anxiety

There are many reasons men experience approach anxiety, some of them are:

• It is evolutionarily programmed into the male brain to fear approaching women because in the distant past if the approach was unsuccessful it could result in the man being ostracised from his  group and his chances of finding a partner could therefore be effectively reduced to nil.
• Men fear the embarrassment of looking like a fool, not least in front of the women they look up to and consider so attractive.
• Men feel that their motives for approach random women are transparent—they want to hit on them. They see this as a major hurdle.
• Men don’t want to have the idea of being socially inept and unattractive reinforced in their minds by failure, so they avoid failure by avoiding approaches.

The concept of approach anxiety can be broadened and re-categorized as a general fear of socially failing in front of attractive women. It’s as simple as that: you don’t want to look like an idiot in front of hot women. You wouldn’t care if you spilt your drink on yourself in front of an 84-year-old woman half as much as if you would if you did the same thing in front of a woman you’d consider to be a true ‘10’.

There are two main ways to reduce your fear of failing.

The first is to philosophize about the problem, by asking yourself questions like:

• What is the worst possible thing that could happen after I make this approach?
• How much do care about what a person I’ve never met before thinks of me, especially if I’ll never meet t hem again
• Why should I be more nervous than the person I’m approaching? What is the difference between them and me?

attractive women aren’t any different to wrinkly old women or young guys at the level of the brain.

This kind of philosophical approach can help if it’s given the right amount of dedication. You need to get deep into what makes you tick and what the facts really are: attractive women aren’t any different to wrinkly old women or young guys at the level of the brain. There is no objective physiological reason you can’t approach a group of 10s, confidently start a conversation with them and somewhere down the line attract and close one of the girls. It’s just hard at the moment, because like most men you’ve a got a lot of unhelpful programming locked in your head.

Anyway, putting the philosophical approach aside, the easiest and probably the most effective way to beat approach anxiety is called habituation. If someone is petrified of spiders, philosophising might help them adjust their understanding of what the facts are: spiders aren’t harmful, etc. But if that person has a spider dropped in their lap, they’re still going to jump 6 feet in the air. The fear is engrained in their head. So, they should use habituation to solve the problem. First they force themselves to think about spiders. Then they think about holding a spider. Then they watch a film of someone holding spiders. Then they see someone in real life hold a spider. Then—after a LOT of previous habituation—they hold one themselves. The process is more complicated than that, but it’s a good example of what habituation is. The more you’re exposed to negative or neutral stimuli, the less you’ll respond to it.

..you need to get out there and start making approaches.

So, you need to get out there and start making approaches. You need to treat it seriously—no messing around. Get in there and approach a group. You’ll be scared at first. And at second. And at third. But slowly you’ll become more acclimatised to it.

Source: Black Belt Seduction Crash Course by Matthew William Sharpe

*NOTE: Matthew  is giving away a free, 31-page “crash course” pdf eBook download with some REALLY valuable tips in it. All you have to do is visit the site and sign up to receive the free course. Well worth your time if you’re interested in any of the points mentioned above.