What to NEVER say to a woman…. EVER. (VIDEO)

Here’s a huge mistake that almost every guy makes when he’s trying to show a woman that he has sexual confidence. If you are making this mistake too, then you’re actually causing women to lose interest in you by accident. I just posted a free video of my buddy Dan Rose explaining the whole mistake and how to avoid it.

Edit: Before you view the video, check this out

It’s a short video, so go watch it now (it could save your sex life):

http://getmoregirlfriends.com/blog/?p=29

One of the most important things you can learn how to do when attracting women is to project a sexually confident vibe. Most guys TRY to do that, but they often make one big mistake that leaves women turned off and will probably cause her to make fun of his sexual skills behind is back. Do you make this mistake? Watch the video and find out.

Be sure to leave a comment after you’re done watching. Do you know anyone that makes this mistake? Have you made it in the past? Tell us about it.

- Wayne Ross

P.S. – Don’t underestimate the power of this lesson. I
personally have known dozens of men that make this exact
same mistake when they’re trying to impress a woman they’ve
just met.

How to Beat Approach Anxiety

Approach Women Confidently and Successfully

The 7th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

Man Approaching Woman

How do I beat approach anxiety?

First let’s define what approach anxiety is. The pure definition of approach anxiety is:

The feeling of nervousness, apprehension and dread you experience while contemplating the idea of approaching a woman or group of people containing women with the intention of trying to create attraction.

In fact, not just while contemplating approaching them, but also while you’re physically walking towards them and when you open your mouth to speak your first words.

Approach anxiety sucks

The physical symptoms include a dry mouth, profuse sweating, a lump in your throat, nervous body language, feelings of self-doubt and an overall drop in mood. Approach anxiety sucks, because for most men it’s the only thing that’s stopping them from being able to meet, interact with and hopefully attract new women. But for some reason all men experience it to some degree or another. Let’s briefly see why that is.

The Causes of Approach Anxiety

There are many reasons men experience approach anxiety, some of them are:

• It is evolutionarily programmed into the male brain to fear approaching women because in the distant past if the approach was unsuccessful it could result in the man being ostracised from his  group and his chances of finding a partner could therefore be effectively reduced to nil.
• Men fear the embarrassment of looking like a fool, not least in front of the women they look up to and consider so attractive.
• Men feel that their motives for approach random women are transparent—they want to hit on them. They see this as a major hurdle.
• Men don’t want to have the idea of being socially inept and unattractive reinforced in their minds by failure, so they avoid failure by avoiding approaches.

The concept of approach anxiety can be broadened and re-categorized as a general fear of socially failing in front of attractive women. It’s as simple as that: you don’t want to look like an idiot in front of hot women. You wouldn’t care if you spilt your drink on yourself in front of an 84-year-old woman half as much as if you would if you did the same thing in front of a woman you’d consider to be a true ‘10’.

There are two main ways to reduce your fear of failing.

The first is to philosophize about the problem, by asking yourself questions like:

• What is the worst possible thing that could happen after I make this approach?
• How much do care about what a person I’ve never met before thinks of me, especially if I’ll never meet t hem again
• Why should I be more nervous than the person I’m approaching? What is the difference between them and me?

attractive women aren’t any different to wrinkly old women or young guys at the level of the brain.

This kind of philosophical approach can help if it’s given the right amount of dedication. You need to get deep into what makes you tick and what the facts really are: attractive women aren’t any different to wrinkly old women or young guys at the level of the brain. There is no objective physiological reason you can’t approach a group of 10s, confidently start a conversation with them and somewhere down the line attract and close one of the girls. It’s just hard at the moment, because like most men you’ve a got a lot of unhelpful programming locked in your head.

Anyway, putting the philosophical approach aside, the easiest and probably the most effective way to beat approach anxiety is called habituation. If someone is petrified of spiders, philosophising might help them adjust their understanding of what the facts are: spiders aren’t harmful, etc. But if that person has a spider dropped in their lap, they’re still going to jump 6 feet in the air. The fear is engrained in their head. So, they should use habituation to solve the problem. First they force themselves to think about spiders. Then they think about holding a spider. Then they watch a film of someone holding spiders. Then they see someone in real life hold a spider. Then—after a LOT of previous habituation—they hold one themselves. The process is more complicated than that, but it’s a good example of what habituation is. The more you’re exposed to negative or neutral stimuli, the less you’ll respond to it.

..you need to get out there and start making approaches.

So, you need to get out there and start making approaches. You need to treat it seriously—no messing around. Get in there and approach a group. You’ll be scared at first. And at second. And at third. But slowly you’ll become more acclimatised to it.

Source: Black Belt Seduction Crash Course by Matthew William Sharpe

*NOTE: Matthew  is giving away a free, 31-page “crash course” pdf eBook download with some REALLY valuable tips in it. All you have to do is visit the site and sign up to receive the free course. Well worth your time if you’re interested in any of the points mentioned above.