What to Do After Meeting a Girl

‘I’ve met this girl…what do I do next?’

The 15th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

If we’re going to talk about frequently asked questions, then this one should rank right at the top our list. The only reason it’s not placed first in this crash course is that the questions and answers have been roughly ordered to match where they fit in the process of becoming a ‘pickup artist’.

What does this question mean, then? It refers to that all-too-common scenario men find themselves in. They meet a girl for the first time and really seem to hit it off with her. Their conversation is just great—it really feels like there’s a spark between the two of them. The night, or day, ends with the guy and the girl saying bye. The guy can’t stop thinking about her. Questions are racing through his mind: “Did she love it as much as I did?” “Is she thinking about me like I’m thinking about her?” etc.

And the biggest question floating around in his brain is

“What can I do to see her again and what should I say and do when I do see her to make something good happen?”

The best way to handle this scenario, to be honest, is to not let it happen. What I mean is, from this day forward you should try your hardest to use as much the advice you’ve learned from this crash course as possible. If you do that, you’ll be much more likely to build enough attraction and rapport with a girl to set things up from the outset. You won’t need to wonder ifshe enjoyed the conversation much as you,because you’ll KNOW whether she did just from looking at her body language and listening to what she said.

But let’s imagine that you’ve done your best to build attraction and comfort with a girl and now you need to make the next step.

Hot Girl on a Boat

Here’s what you should aim to do.

• You need some kind of bridge between you and her—a method of interacting with her. This could be her phone number, her email address (not recommended), her social networking site ID or the possibility of seeing her in person (she works somewhere public, she’s your friend’s housemate, etc.)
• Once you have one or more methods of contacting her, you need to use one of them. A text is a good place to start, because it’s not too personal or intense.
• Refer to the section of this crash course on phone and text game for info on how to send the perfect text, but for now just follow this general rule: Keep the text short, light-hearted, slightly flirty and the kind of message that deserves or requires a response. Again, check the section on phone and text game.
• After a few messages have passed between you and her, you need to suggest the idea of meeting up somehow. DO NOT suggest a date—you don’t know her well enough yet. Tell her you’re going to do something with your friends and she should come along to protect you or something.
• The next time you see her, whether it’s part of an event like the one just suggested, start building attraction and comfort in the way you should have when you first met her, and go from there.

It’s hard to explain everything you need to do to make an extended early relationship with a woman progress positively in just a few paragraphs, but the advice above should get you started.

Source: Black Belt Seduction Crash Course by Matthew William Sharpe