Lack of Sexual Experience – Does It Matter to Women?
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The 5th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.
Does a lack of sexual experience matter?
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To answer this question, first you should read this post, which explains the real deal regarding good looks and money and the relatively small roles they should play in the dating game, providing you’ve got skills in other areas. Now, let’s continue.
Sexual experience gives man the following:
- An understanding of the female body and, to some degree, the female mind
- The skills to pleasure a woman
- A feeling of overall life experience—the man thinks he has progressed since he was an inexperienced juvenile
- The feeling of being a real man who women would want as their boyfriend
A man lacking in sexual experience is likely to feel some quite extreme anxiety because he doesn’t possess any of the things just listed.
He will feel that his lack of sexual experience…
- Will make him look inept and clueless when it comes to dealing with the female body
- Makes him feel behind his peers. He doesn’t feel as much of a man. Or he feels like a man with a lot less life experience than most other guys
- Makes him think women will not regard him as boyfriend-material
Thinking any of the above will clearly hinder a man in the dating game. BUT, it’s not his lack of sexual experience that will hold him back. It is his negative attitude, which is a product of his sexual inexperience. Imagine a man’s family is killed by the mob. The man takes revenge by blowing up the mob’s headquarters. It isn’t the fact that the man’s family is dead that makes the bomb went off, it’s because the man’s reaction to his family’s death was so negative. That negativity manifested itself into some very destructive behavior.
Sometimes it seems like certain causes cannot help but result in certain symptoms (sexual inexperience causing symptoms such as shyness, insecurity, etc.), but that’s not always true. If you are sexually inexperienced, then you should remember the following.
- As long as you exhibit strong, confident body language, you will appear to be comfortable with yourself.
- As long as you react in the right way to being touched by women (you don’t freak out, look embarrassed or overwhelmed, etc.), women won’t know that you aren’t used to being touched.
- As long as you do your very best to initiate physical touching with a woman, the woman won’t wonder why you’re not progressing things and she won’t think you’re inexperienced.
People only know as much as you subconsciously or consciously tell them. It isn’t deceptive to appear confident and experienced. So that should be your goal. By achieving that goal, you’ll be able to successfully attract a woman and gain sexual experience, which will of course cancel out the original problem.
Source: Black Belt Seduction Crash Course by Matthew William Sharpe
Absolutely not. Everyone’s body is different. When wehave a new partner it really is its own first time. We have to figure out what our partner likes and dislikes, what works for them sexually.. Someone who has had many sexual partners before doesn’t walk into a new partnership good at sex with that partner, because we all differ in terms of what we like and what works for us: we might be more comfortable with sex since we have some idea of what to expect, or be a bit better at communicating about sex, but that’s about it.and those are hardly things that aren’t a boon rather than a burden with a first partner. Plus, people who walk into sex with new partners with the idea that previous sexual experience means they don’t have to learn sex anew with new partners tend to be pretty lousy lovers, in point of fact.
Yes it matters, I am a 33 year old who has never been with a woman, not even a date. I can tell you all the personality in the world wont keep her from seeing right through you. All the dating sites, the headlines say, looking for mr. Right or women will tell you they just want a nice guy who likes me for me crap, But thats exactly what it is, crap. They will take one look at you and unless you are attractive enough for them to want to break you in you are doomed. I have the misfortune of also looking like Robert Englund so that doesnt help at all let me tell you. I have asked women out who are not overly attractive in every possible way and on most websites that arent dating scam sites. Since I was 18, so far I have had one response, but she just wrote back because in my profile I said that I knew something about computers, after I helped her fix that , never heard from her again. Being ugly or unscrewable doesn’t have many upsides, not unless you enjoy watching most of your potential love interests have sexual relations with ALL of your friends. Its really hell, I think the only reason guys like me dont commit mass suicide is the proposition of how painful it would be and what if I screw it up, then where will I be.
Anyway thanks alot girls, In my defense I am having a manic depressive fit, I think, no worries chasing it with aspirin usually helps.