How Women Value Men – A Pickup Artists’ Perspective

What is Value to Women and How do I Possess it?

Source: Black Belt Seduction Crash Course

The second in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

We already know what the standard definition of ‘value’ is:

“A measure of those qualities that determine merit, desirability, usefulness, or importance.”

Except we’re not going to use that definition, because we’re not talking about the value of a business or a car. We’re talking about men, which of course includes you. We should therefore change the above definition so it reads as follows:

“A measure of those qualities that determine merit, desirability, usefulness, or importance of a man in the eyes of women.”

High Value Men vs. Low Value Men

When women ‘decide’ whether or not they are attracted to you, they take into consideration your value. Your value is the sum total of your positive and negative personal traits, characteristics and modes of behavior. However, when considering your value, women only include traits, characteristics and modes of behavior which directly relate to the prospect of dating you—or being your partner. So, in summing up your value (and therefore how sexually attractive you appear to (them), women will care much less about which vegetables you like and don’t like than how many friends you have and what those friends are like—because if they dated you your social circle would matter more to them than your vegetable preferences.

In other words, the things that define your value (attractiveness) all relate to what women want and need from you as a partner. These things include:
The ability to:

• Protect them and emotionally support them
• Make them feel happy
• Help them prosper socially

And:

• Strong genes (based on healtt and physical appearance/attractive male looks)
• Other strong and desirable traits (shown through positive modes of behaviour such as confidence, motivation, ability to cope in difficult situations, etc.)
• Social standing (how much you are respected, admired, copied and looked up to by other people, male and female)
• Personal integrity and a strong sense of self-confidence (not confidence in the normal sense, as used to be successful in social situations, but confidence relating to your opinion of yourself: who you are, what you stand for, what you care about, what you’re capable of, etc.)

Those are some of the things you need to possess to be high value in the eyes of a woman. The more of those traits and characteristics you have, the more attractive you not only appear to be, but actually are  to the opposite sex. Of course, you now have two tasks ahead of you:

1. Adopt or develop those traits
2. Successfully exhibit and broadcast them to women

It’s no use having all those great things if women don’t  get to see them. That is why you need more than a high-value persona to be successful with women; you need to have the necessary skills to show women that you have those great things. That’s the only way they’ll think “This guy is amazing. I want him and I want him to want me.”  Most men have the capacity to develop their value to a level that allows most women to consider them attractive enough to date them. The trick is removing as much of your LOW value male behavior as possible and replacing it with as much HIGH value male behavior as you can. For some guys this takes longer than it does for others—it all depends on how much value you have to start with.

It’s important you don’t get too caught up in assessing your value, because ultimately that’s not the kind of man you want to be. You just want to be naturally laid-back, comfortable with yourself, and capable of making women feel good about themselves without giving them the impression that you want something from them. That is fundamentally what being a high value male is about.

You’ll need to know more about possessing and demonstrating high social value before you can be truly proficient at attracting women, but for now you have enough information to be going on. Your new knowledge of what value is will form one of the fundamental aspects of your new attractive, high value male persona.

For more advanced techniques, check out Matthew’s tutorial series