How to Get a Girls Number

How do get her phone number?

The 12th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

The simple answer to this question is: if you can sexually attract her, you won’t need to get her phone number, because she’ll practically throwing it at you. Of course, this question is more about exactly what you say and do afterattracting the woman to make getting her phone number a smooth, stress-free action.

There are three pre-requisites that you should make sure are in place before you attempt what’s known as a number-close:

3 Prerequisites for a  number-close

1. There MUST be sexual attraction. You need to have spoken to each other long enough for her to feel attracted to you in a pretty big way. Use your knowledge of female body language, along with your gut instinct, to determine how much you have or haven’t attracted your target before you do the number close.
2. There should at least a little bit of comfort developed between you and your target. Comfort happens after attraction has been established. It is created through slightly deeper one-on-one conversation, during which you discuss more personal topics, likes dreams and ambitions.
3. You should be suitably distant from her friends. If you’re in the middle of her friends when you ask for her number she might feel uncomfortable, even if she’s attracted to you.

Next, no matter what words you use to propose the idea of you and her swapping numbers (which is a lot better than you just getting hers), you should deliver those words in the following way.

• Confidently. If you’re nervous, the number close won’t go as smoothly as it could.
• Clearly. No mumbling or stuttering allowed
• Directly.In conversation, it’s important you don’t quickly skip from subject to subject because doing so shows that you don’t really care what you talk about with the girl, just that you are talking to her. This lowers your value in her mind, because you’re putting her on a pedestal that says she deserves special attention and adoration. In closing, a similar concept applies. When you’re specific in your closing suggestion, you show that you are interested in doing a particular thing with the girl; something you’ve thought about and decided would be fun.

When you make the suggestion to the girl, she recognizes this and likes it–-which makes her say ‘yes’. However, if you are vague in what you suggest when you close, the following message is conveyed to the girl: “I don’t really care what we do or when we do it, all I know is that I want to see you again!” If the girl is VERY into you, she might not mind this too much, but as a general rule, you should avoid sending this kind of message. Instead, take a much more laid back approach, make the proposal specific and deliver it confidently.

Probably the best method you can use to close is to ask her she if wants to join you and some of your friends to do something soon that is already planned. This is powerful because it shows…

• You have a good social circle.
• The situation won’t be too intense for her, because it won’t be one-on-one.
• There will be other girls there for her to talk to.
• The event is already planned, so you’re not just inventing it for her sake.

Obviously you need to be able to arrange a real event with some your real friends to use this closer. It is definitely something you should aim to do though. When she agrees, swapping numbers is the most natural and expected thing you could possibly do—how else could you arrange anything? It’s perfect. It makes the number swap so easy.

Source: Black Belt Seduction Crash Course by Matthew William Sharpe

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