You are trying to get to know a girl, and she just doesn’t seem to want to talk about anything real. You aren’t sure how it happened, but you feel like you’re STUCK in small talk.

Sometimes you just don’t know how to go into a deeper, more meaningful conversation, and although you might have had a fun time on your date… you really don’t know that much about her.

Well in this section of Wayne Ross’s Dating Tips, you’re going to discover a proven way to get a woman to open up to you very easily, and without “prying”, or being pushy.

Communication is one of the most important skills to have when it comes to meeting women, and so I’m going to teach you a nice little skill that you can use immediately.

Unfortunately, most guys have no idea how to talk with their lady, and they end up being single over and over again. Here’s something important to remember about talking with girls that you’re interested in.

If you find yourself not sure what to talk about with a girl, you can do what’s called “listening for topics”.  It’s really easy to do this, once you know how.

If you’re on a date with a girl, and you are bored of talking about the latest movies, what kind of music she likes, etc… what do you do next? What do you talk about?

Well that’s what I’m here to teach you. Listening for topics is a powerful solution to this problem, and it’s so easy to do.

Let’s say for example, she’s telling you about her day, and she mentions that she bought flower bulbs for her garden. Well, normally you might just nod your head and say “uh huh, yep”… but no no no… you can use that to move into a fun conversation.

Plus, she’ll feel really good about talking to you in the future.

Let me explain. To you, her garden might not mean anything, but if she mentioned it in conversation, it’s obviously important to her. So you could say, “Oh, you have a garden? Could you tell me about it?”. Well, don’t you think she’s going to jump at the chance?

She’ll actually think you’re more interesting, because you were interested in HER garden. Remember that people who are the most interesting, are usually the ones who are most interested (in the other person).

Try it out the next time you’re talking to someone. While they are talking to you, actively listen for them to mention something out of the ordinary about themselves, or about how their day went.

Then, go ahead and ask them about it. This will open them up, and make them want to talk to you more.

And it will also make them appreciate you so much more, because you were actually listening to what they had to say (so much so that you asked them for more information).

What woman could resist that?

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Sure, many people say it, but they don’t give you a way to improve your numbers. Hold on tight, because this issue is going to talk about just that very subject.

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying before that “Dating is a numbers game”.

Well in this post, you’re going to learn how this principal applies in the real world, and how you can use it to improve your ability to meet women.

First of all, what does that mean… dating is a numbers game? How does that actually work in the real world?

The reason you’ll hear so many people talking about dating as a numbers game is because of this simple truth. The more doors you knock on, the more will open.

Now there’s two ways to increase the amount of women in your life. The first one is to simple knock on more doors, and statistically… you will get more doors that open for you.

What that means is… the more women you approach, and ask out… the more women you are going to have saying yes. The flip side of that is you will also have more women saying “no” too.

The second way to get more women is to learn how to get a higher percentage of those doors to open. Let’s say you approach 20 women, and only 1 of them is interested in seeing you for a first date.

That’s a 5% “yes ratio”. Now, you could just approach 100 women, and get 5 “yes’s”, and that would be fine. You’d have 5 women in your life, and you’d be happy.

But let’s be honest, do you really want to have to go through 95 “no’s” to get to 5 “yes’s”?

I didn’t think so.

But what if you could learn how to get 4 or 5 yes’s for every 20 women you talked to? Wouldn’t that be much easier, and smarter than bulldozing your way through 100 women?

So what should I focus on first?

The first thing to work on is your approach, of course. The more women you approach, the more chances for first dates you will have. Try experimenting with these aspects of the approach to see what combination works best for you.

• Try smiling when you walk up VS. smirking.
• Try saying “Hi there” instead of just “Hi”
• Try complimenting her on a specific feature, instead of just telling her she’s beautiful.

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You might be asking yourself why I am saying that confidence is an illusion, and you would be right to do so. So many dating books talk about how important it is to be confident when approaching women.

But is that really the answer?

Let me ask you something, when you call up your best friend and ask him or her if she wants to go to the movies tonight… do you have to get your confidence level up before you call? Let’s say you call up your friend Mark, and ask him to go out to the movies with you tonight, and he says, “Nah, I want to stay home tonight and watch TV.”

Do you feel rejected and walk away from the phone with your head down? Of course not, in fact you probably give him a hard time about it.You might joke with him, and call him a couch potato. You might start to tell him how great the movie is that you want to go see. Hell, you might even just offer to pay for his ticket.

My point is, you don’t worry about rejection. It’s not a personal failure if Mark says no… in fact, you know that because this movie is going to be so good… that it’s actually his loss.

Here’s the thing that most people don’t realize. Confidence is the natural result of not having any of those fears that get in your way. People who you think are confident… really are not. They are just busy doing what they do, and NOT getting in their own way.

Are you confident that you can do your job well, no matter what your job is? Do you have to even think about it? Probably not.

You see, confidence is not necessary when you have skill and experience. There’s many ways that you can get skill and experience, and the worst way is to do it by trial and error. The smartest way to gain skill and experience is to learn from people who have already done what you want to do. If you want to learn how to be successful with girls, then the best thing to do is learn from someone who is already successful with girls.

-Wayne Ross