Cute Woman

With a little bit of skill, you can actually give yourself an early advantage when it comes to attracting and picking-up a girl you like.

You do this by conducting a little bit of “research”.

Let’s say you’re at a party. You see a girl you really like and want to get to know and notice that she has a couple of close female friends with her. You can always tell which girls are friends with your target – their body language and proximity to her make it screamingly obvious.

What you need to do now is wait for one of your target female’s friends to break away from her for a short while. Maybe one will go and get a drink over at the other side of the room or just wander across to another group of people. When you see something along these lines happen, move in and get talking to your target’s friend. Just play it like a normal conversation. Don’t worry about coming across as attractive or charming – this girl isn’t your target, after all.

The purpose of this little chat is to find out some personal information about your target, like her birthday or star sign – something you could never guess first time. Here’s how to get the info without it being obvious. Casually move onto the subject of birthdays with the target girl’s friend.

First ask her how old she is, act surprized when she tells you, then simplysay:

“So what’s your birthday?”

When she tells you, say you know someone with the same one.

This keeps the topic rolling and interesting. Next turn around and point over to where your target female is. She’ll no doubt be talking to someone so won’t be watching you. Say to the girl you’re talking to:

“So you and your friends are about the same age?”

Regardless of how she answers, very casually say back to her:

“Are you and your friend over there born in the same month. I bet you are!”

Chances are they won’t be and because you’ve said “I bet you are” the target’s friend will want to volunteer when her friend was born as roof they weren’t born in the same month. If she doesn’t straight away, just say:

“So what’s her birthday then if you weren’t born in the same month?”

When you’ve found out, remember it. Later on, when you talk to your actual target girl, you can play a game with her in which you “guess” her birthday, or pretend to be psychic, or do any number of other fun, flirty things with the information you have.

The point of using this technique is that it allows you to form a strong bond with your target female (because no other guy has or will ever be able to “know” her birthday without her telling him). This fast-forwards you through many of the usually slow and tricky seduction steps (sexual chemistry, comfort building, etc.) that all guys have to go through when picking-up women. She’ll feel like you’ve really “clicked” with each other.

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Woman Thinking

The Power of Positive Responses

Towards the end of your conversation with a girl, just before you get her phone number or arrange a date, it pays to ask her a few consecutive questions that you know she’ll answer ‘yes’ to.

Her positive responses temporarily instil a sense of compliance and agreement in her subliminal mind. She basically becomes more likely to answer ‘yes’ to your most important, closing question or statement.

Like “We should grab a coffee tomorrow, don’t you think?”

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Clueless Woman Shrugging

Women Are Clueless When It Comes to Understanding The Components Of Attraction & Seduction

Many guys read about the kinds of attraction and seduction principles you have recently been learning, love them, but are afraid to try and use them because they’re worried that their motives will be immediately obvious to the women they talk to and try the techniques on.

If you have even a remotely similar feeling to this then you must remember that women’s minds work differently to guys’. And I don’t mean we’re like a different species, aren’t human or anything like that.

For example, a guy might be concerned that his opener will, when used, come across as a blatant attempt to get talking to the girl he uses it on with the sole intention of getting into her pants somewhere down the line.

However, the reason he feels this way is because of HIS perspective on the situation. He knows that he’s got an opener in mind to get a conversation going and is fully aware of the fact that he’s been actively learning about the social dynamics and psychological rules
of attraction and seduction.

The female he uses the opener on, however, has a complete different perspective. All she sees is a guy approach her, confidently and casually, and start a fun and interesting conversation. And women love that.

So, remember that MOST women don’t and can’t fully understand and appreciate the intricate components of attraction between themselves and men and what goes into creating it.

As a result, when you think they might be aware of your techniques and what you’re using them for, they are in fact much more likely to just be enjoying the attention you’re giving them and the fun, chemistry-filled conversation you’re having together.

By arranging as many social occasions per week for yourself as you can, you maximize your ability to pick-up women. This works in a secondary sense, as follows.

In one of my other tips I talk about you setting up “group” dates that you can invite a girl long to instead of setting up a potentially damaging one-on-one date involving just you and her. The more of these social gatherings and occasions you can arrange the better because the more you have in your schedule, the more of them you can use as:

1. “Group” dates, as in one of my previous tips.
2. Times to practice your pick-up skills on women you meet for the first time during these events and occasions.
3. Methods of gaining a healthy perspective on the pick-up game. You don’t want the goal of picking up women to become and be noticeable as your main, unchanging focus in life. If women you meet think it is, your chances of attracting them will be all but demolished. Instead, you should keep a busy social calendar and fit your interactions with women you want to attract around it.

Another tip soon Ben.

Ms. T.
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Pick up a girl reading books at a library

Today’s tip is about speech speed.

When you talk to women, make sure you don’t speak too quickly or too slowly.

Rushing through your words makes you look scared that you’ll lose the girl’s interest, while speaking too slowly can indicate that you’re unsure of what you’re saying and worried she’ll judge you for saying the wrong things.

So, just focus on speaking at your regular speed, just as you do with your male friends.

When you successfully do this, you demonstrate to women that their presence and/or beauty doesn’t affect you or the way you think.

You’re independent and self-secure. And THAT’S what they ultimately find sexually attractive.

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Hi Seduction-Guides Readers,

There are two reasons it pays to be forthright when asking the girl you want to pick-up for her number or for a date. The first is that women want, whether they know it or not, to be a with man who is spontaneous, impulsive and confident. The second is that it’s always easier for the girl to agree to what you’re suggesting if you MAKE it easy for her to do so.

And if you want to arrange a date, it’s better to say:

The basic formula you need to remember is: confidently suggest what it is you want to do or get and then ask a quick, easy to answer question straight after, almost like it’s a foregone conclusion that what you’ve suggested will be okay and almost expected to happen or take place.

Sales people call this “assuming the sale” and it’s a proven psychological persuader that works great… Especially on women.

Why you shouldn’t ask a girl out on a first date.

Too many men ruin what could have been successful interactions with women by, right at the end, suggesting they go on a one-on-one date together.

Most of the time the girl will make an excuse and say she can’t do anything that week but that she’ll call him to arrange something soon.

You don’t have to be Einstein to realize that she’s totally lost interest in him and the idea of dating him when this kind of thing happens.

So what is it about the one-on-one date idea that so often kills the chemistry and attraction that’s been successfully built up between a guy and a girl?

Well, it’s actually three things.

First, when a guy suggests a one-on-one date after only having one conversation with a girl (even if it lasts a few hours), he’s making quite a definite, bold statement. He’s saying, “I like you so much that I’m willing to forego all other women here and elsewhere, from today until after we’ve had our thing, whatever may or may not come of it.”

This is such an intense statement, that, although it’s unspoken, makes it as clear as day in the female’s mind that the balance of power between her and the guy is totally tipped in her favor.

She sees what a massive effect she’s had on him and, usually, isn’t too impressed by how easy it was to win him over.

Now, that doesn’t mean to say that suggesting a one-on-one date with a girl is always a bad idea – just that it can often be a terrible one if done wrongly.

So, as a safe and effective alternative to setting up a dinner date or trip to the movies with a woman, try this. At the end of your successful interaction, in which time you’ve built mutually felt sexual chemistry, attraction and comfort between yourself and the girl, ask her if she’d like to tag along with you and a few other people to an event or social gathering.

Just make sure that she knows that doing or going to this thing will be you, her and OTHER PEOPLE

It can be anything: a group shopping trip, a house-warming party, a music event, etc. Just make sure that she knows that doing or going to this thing will be you, her and OTHER PEOPLE.

This achieves the following:

1. She feels less like it’s a date between you and her and therefore doesn’t feel as though she has any real power over you.
This maintains the “chase” aspect of your developing relationship and therefore keeps her interested in attracting you.

2. During the event or social gathering, she’ll have a chance to see you as a social person, with lots of friends and contacts. This
boosts your personal worth in her mind and she finds you more appealing because of that fact.

3. While you’re in the group (which consists of your friends plus her) you’ll have a chance to continue to work your magic on her.
After a few hours she’ll be dying to set up that one-on-one date that, only a few days previous, would have totally turned her off
the idea of dating you. Now she can’t think of anything she’d rather do.

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NOTE: The only way you’ll avoid “crashing and burning” ALTOGETHER is by knowing EXACTLY what to say and do with women… You need tried and tested secrets and routines that will SHORT CIRCUIT her attraction switches and make her find you attractive, sexually and emotionally – regardless of what she thought of you before she talked to you…

Guys try it on with girls and fail miserably to make the right kind of impression. As a man who knows how to use psychology and social dynamics, you should always be ready to work off another guy’s crash and burn and take advantage of something called the Law of Contrast.

First, a brief explanation of what a crash and burn is. Basically, a crash and burn is when a guy talks to a girl, tries to create an attraction for him in her mind and fails.

There are different degrees of crash and burns, from the most subtle (in which the girl doesn’t even realize the guy was coming on to her) to the most extreme (which may well end in the guy getting slapped or shouted out for his ineptitude and forwardness).

Clearly you don’t want to experience either of these and you won’t if you use your attraction and seduction techniques properly.

However, you CAN use crash and burns to your advantage when you see them happening in mixed groups (a collection of 3 or more people that consists of men and women).

Now, the Law of Contrast. This is a psychological rule that applies to all people, at all times. It goes like this: when two items, scenarios or people are placed side by side, the better of the two will always appear much more attractive and positive than the other would if presented by itself, without the other, less attractive option.

Imagine a plate of stinking, rotten food, totally inedible. You can barely look at it without retching and feeling sick. A fresh plate of food, placed next to it, would automatically seem like a much, much better eating option, perhaps even more so than if it were presented by itself.

In a social situation, you can use the Law of Contrast as follows to boost your appeal in the minds of attractive girls. Watch out for mixed groups that clearly contain guys who are either crashing and burning as you look on, or are unmistakably on their way to doing so.

Usually you can identify these guys from the body language of the girl’s they’re hitting on – negative, closed and uninterested. Head over, introduce yourself into their social reality with a decent situational or opinion opener and generally be yourself: confident but not arrogant, funny but not a clown and witty but not too sarcastic.

Placed side by side in the girls’ minds, you will easily come out on top compared with the guy or guys they’ve been putting up with so far and, as a result, you’ll stand a great chance of picking them up – probably much better than if you hadn’t used the crash and burn of another guy to create the comparison between you and them in the females’ analytical brains.

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