How to Stay In Control of a Woman

Staying In Control of a Girl

Stay In Control of a Woman

Be careful not to stick around for too long when talking to girls. You need to keep them on their feet, wondering whether or not you even like them sexually.

So, if a conversation with a hot girl starts to dry up and you feel it’s easier to walk away and talk to someone else, that’s what you should do.

It shows that you’re socially intelligent and not just focussing on her and her social needs.

Later on, when you talk to the hot girl again, her opinion of you – as a confident, dynamic guy – will have been reinforced by your earlier departure. As a result, she’ll now feel more attracted to you and the idea of talking to you again.

IMPORTANT NOTE:

Attraction isn’t JUST about saying the right things, it’s about DOING the right things…

Often the right things for the right situation involve doing something that is totally counter-intuitive.

In fact, often whatever your head is telling you to do, you should DO THE OPPOSITE… Most guys do the SAME things with women and when a guy comes along who does the opposite of what she expects, she gets a deep surge of attraction – as long as what you are doing are the RIGHT counter intuitive things… For exactly what do say and do, and more importantly what not to say and do – to seem – spontaneous and somehow “different” from those other guys, check out: Free Seduction Guide.

How You Can Instantly Get A Woman’s Attention

Previously we went over the importance of openers.

Basically, before you start ANY conversation with women, you have to OPEN the conversation (unless they open you – and yes there are LOTS of ways to get women to approach and open you but we’ll go into them some other time).

Yesterday I gave you a few examples of openers. In this post there’s another powerful opener from Mr. M.

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How to instantly get a woman’s attention and sexually attract her using the ‘OH!’ opener.

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Most men have the same problems when trying to start conversations with women. Here they are:

1. The woman knows they’re coming on to her and is therefore trying to avoid talking to them from the outset
2. The man’s opener (the way he starts the conversation) sounds rehearsed or manufactured.
3. What the man says isn’t interesting or engaging. Take this opener, for example.

It’s the kind of thing lots of guys might say to a woman they want to talk to and–fingers crossed–attract.

“Hi, do you have the time?”

This opener is weak for three reasons.

• The man says hi. This is a useless word that serves no real purpose.
• He asks her for the time. This is a standard, boring, everyday thing you could ask a bus driver or a
  bum.
• It contains no emotion and it feels like the only reason you’re saying it is for your own selfish reason.

Now let’s look at the exact opposite: an opener that is spontaneous, interesting and full of emotion.

It’s called the ‘OH!’ opener because that’s the first word, or sound, you use when you start a conversation with a woman you want to talk to and attract. Here’s how.

You’re in close proximity to a girl or group of girls. Say you’re standing three feet away, with a couple of your friends.

You need to turn your head, but not your body.

Look at one of the girls–preferably not the one you primarily want to attract–and say, quite loudly, ‘OH!’.

This will immediately get their attention.

Keep your body facing pretty much away from the girls.

Once you see that you’ve got their attention, follow up with something interesting and engaging. Try not to make it too short, otherwise they’ll reply with a short response, which could kill the conversation before it has a chance to get started.

Something like this works well. “OH!” (The girls turn around).

“Did you guys see those lights too last night?”

They’ll ALWAYS ask, “What lights?”

Bang, you’re in.

You turn your body towards them a bit more.

“About nine o’clock last night, right above the skyline towards [name a local landmark].”

They’ll of course say no. But they’re intrigued now.

Turn towards them properly now.

You can now transition into talking to them normally, because you have approval from them. They’ve responded to two questions and asked one of their own. You now start to talk about what everyone’s talking about: was it a UFO that people saw? Do they believe in UFOs? Have they ever seen anything weird, like a UFO? Etc. It doesn’t need to be a LONG conversation about UFO’s…

In fact it’s best if it’s short, snappy and then you go into another routine just like you would if you were talking to a group of friends you’ve known for years.

The ‘OH!’ opener is perfect for opening conversations with women because it can be adapted so easily.

You can alter how you say ‘OH!’ to match what you’re going to say next. You can make it an ‘I just remembered something…’ OH or a long ‘I just realized something’ OH.

You can even say, ‘OH, sorry!’ Then go right into something else.

The power of the OH! opener is that it sounds andseems spontaneous. It’s like you’ve just had this sudden thought you want to share with someone. It also gives the strong impression it’s about to be followed by something new, interesting and
engaging. Women love this…

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Eliminate Your Fear of Approaching Women

Here’s how to totally eradicate your fear of walking up to a woman

Courtesy of Mr. M.(one of the other Black Belt Seduction instructors).

Literally walking up to or otherwise getting close to a girl or group of girls and beginning a conversation with them can be extremely daunting and even scary for a guy–even if he’s usually confident and self-assured.

Approaching a girl or group in this way is simply known as ‘opening’ and it is one of the biggest fears and obstacles guys have trouble with when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex with the goal of attracting them in mind.

It’s not hard to see why.

Approaching and opening involves quite a large investment of effort on your part and seems, at first glance, to come with a fair amount of risk associated with it.

Let’s first look at the reasons men have trouble confidently approaching and opening. Then we’ll look at how you can bypass your approach anxiety and thereby open successfully whenever and wherever you choose to do so.

The mains reasons men fear the approach are:

• They’re scared of immediately getting shot down, rejected and made a fool of by the girl they start a conversation with  They think that the girl will immediately think that they’re trying to pick them up and seduce them and will therefore be extremely unenthusiastic about the idea of having anything like a normal, fun conversation with them
• Because of their insecurities, guys worry that a few minutes into the conversation with a girl, they’ll lose their initial feeling of confidence and slowly begin to unravel and lose it
• Men know that a successful pick-up involves more than just approaching and opening and therefore look ahead to the other stages of seduction and worry about them. They think how hard the
• conversation will be to maintain, for example, and how tricky it will be to close at the end of the chat and get a good result from it, like the girl’s phone number or a date with her
• They ponder over what guys who are already in the vicinity of the girl they’re interested in will think when they approach and get talking to her. ‘Will they see that I’m trying to pick-up the girl and try to thwart my attempt?’

There are other reasons guys fear the approach, but the remaining ones I haven’t listed fall into similar categories to the ones you’ve just read. They mainly relate to fears of being laughed at by the girl or otherwise rejected.

The first thing you need to do to conquer any fear of approaching you may have, is read, contemplate and truly understand and believe the following two concepts:

1. It’s vitally important that you forget about the goal of attracting women when you’re out on a daily basis. When you make the mistake of mainly thinking about the end goal in this way, you overload your brain with a mass of obstacles, problems and difficulties. Put simply, you cast your attention too far into the future and by doing so make things seem harder and more impossible than they really ever should be.

Instead, you should always concentrate on the sub-stages of attraction – the smaller steps and not the larger ones further down the line. So when you’re approaching women, DO NOT actively think about how you’re going to finally get her number or what you’re going to talk about in an hour’s time. Let your interactions with women take on an organic, free-flowing nature.

2. “How am I supposed to not think about the actual conversation, when it’s going to follow only moments after my opener? And how am I supposed to keep my mind off the problem of closing, when that’s the only thing that’s going to make my interactions with women truly successful?” The answer is: have faith in yourself. If you’re able to have a fun, lively conversation with one of your male friends, then you can do the same with an attractive woman. You just need to be laid back and unconcerned with what the outcome of your conversation will be.

Once you’ve completely taken on board the two concepts above, read over the following quick rules of thumb. Remembering and trusting in them will really help you approach and start talking to women confidently and  effectively:

The realistic worst-case scenario of an approach will never, ever be as bad as you might imagine. If a girl simply doesn’t seem to want to talk to you, that’s fine. You’re free to simply move on and talk to someone else. Her loss. Stay friendly and sociable and it will be the girls who don’t want to talk to you who will come off badly and seem frosty and unfriendly.

When you approach, only have the following at the forefront of your mind: I’m going to start and maintain a fun and interesting conversation with this girl. By thinking along these lines, you take out all of the sleaze of the interaction and the girls you talk to will sense this and like it.

Women have no problem talking to guys they don’t know if those guys are friendly, confident and interesting. You ARE all three of these things, so don’t worry about girls not wanting to chat to you because they’re uninterested in the idea of getting to know you.

Girls, the vast majority of the time, don’t do the approaching.

They don’t make the first move.

This is the case because they don’t need to – they know men will do it. This is one aspect of social life between the sexes in which women have the lion’s share of the power over men.

But don’t let that be a negative thing. Instead, remember this fact: because women leave the approaching and opening to men, when it happens in a positive and attractive way, they EMBRACE and enjoy it. Women dig it when guys approach them and bowl them over with their charisma, charm, confidence and humor. You’ve only got to watch a couple of chick flicks to see evidence of this fact.

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