The 7 Main Categories a Woman Has for Men in Her Life

How do I avoid falling into her friend’s zone?

“Let’s Just Be Friends” – NOOOOO

The 18th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

Let’s start this one off with the classic from Biz Markie.. not exactly what we’re going to talk about, but still…

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A woman’s friends zone is one of 7 main categories a woman has for the men in her life. Aside from men in their family, every man a woman knows falls into one of these 7 categories. They are:

• Boyfriend Material
• ABU Material
• Real friend material
• LJBF Material
• Friends of Friends
• Strangers

Boyfriend material:

The woman is sexually attracted to the man, feels comfort with him and sees him as a prime candidate for being her boyfriend.

ABU material:

Attractive but unsuitable. The woman is somewhat sexually attracted to the man, but for one or more reasons he is not suitable boyfriend material (he has certain dislikeable characteristics, he works far away, he’s friends with all his ex-girlfriends, etc.)

Real friend material:

Men in the woman’s life who are genuinely her friends who she sees on a regular basis and whom she does not find sexually attractive.

LJBF material:

Let’s Just Be Friends. This is the category this section is mainly taking about. This is the main one you want to avoid falling into when you start getting to know a woman. The last two categories are self-explanatory.

The reason knowing what those 7 categories are is useful is because it can sometimes be hard to know where you stand with a woman shortly after you’ve met her. You don’t know if she finds you attractive enough to date you, whether she genuinely wants to be friends with you because you get on so well, or whether she felt a spark between the two of you at the beginning which has since died and left you, the man, relegated to the LJBF zone.

The ways to know whether or not you’re in the LJBF zone are:

• Think about how you much effort you are each putting into your burgeoning relationship. Who is working the hardest to keep things moving forward? (Who is texting the most, making the most phone calls, concentrating on keeping the conversations fun, etc.)
• How much tactility is there between you and the woman? Aside from its frequency, what kind of tactility is it? Is it friendly only or is it bordering on sexual?
• Have you crossed the line yet by kissing each other? If not, then that’s something you’ll need to
  do before you can truly be sure you’re out of the Real friend zone or the LJBF zone.

The best ways to keep yourself out of the LJBF zone are:

• Never let things rest and get stale. Every interaction you have with the woman needs to contain flirting, teasing, humor and fun. Things need to gradually move forward. Focus on amplifying tactility between you and the woman so it gets slowly more intimate (lead up to touching her face, her hair, putting your arm around her waist, etc.) If time is right, strike while the iron is hot.
• Don’t miss your opportunity kiss her. you know the If you don’t capitalize on the chance to kiss her, you risk her thinking that you don’t have ability to move things forward—this could put you in her LJBF zone.
• Never give her the impression that all you want from her is to be her friend. Always let teasing, flirting and banter play big roles in your interactions.

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How to Meet Women During the Day

How do I meet and attract women during the day?

The 17th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

Daytime game is truly a challenge for even the seasoned pickup artist. Here’s why:

• At night time, people who are in public are invariably relaxing and socialising. The fact that they are socialising makes it easier for you to approach them and introduce yourself. In the day time, this isn’t the case.
• During the day, women tend to be by themselves. There’s a risk here of sounding like we’re talking about hunting women like prey—we are not. It’s just the case that women out and about during the day are usually by themselves. This can make approaching and talking to them
• During the day, most of us have to do more; we’re at work, we’re shopping; we’re going from one place to another
• At night, people are in one venue and they stay in there for a while. The fact that people are on the move during the day means that meeting women during the day can be harder.

Those are the main reasons approaching women during the day can be more challenging than interacting with them night. So! What can we do about that? First of all, you need to adapt to the different environment by following slightly different rules concerning how you approach and open. They are:

• In a club, you can walk up to a group of women and open using a pretty flirty and controversial comment or question. If you do this during the daytime to one woman, you risk her thinking you’re crazy. You need to tone it down a notch. When you open, use slightly less energy than you
  would in a club—after all, it takes nowhere near as much volume or energy to get a woman’s attention in the street as it does to get a group’s attention in a loud club.
• A safe bet when making approaches in the street is to use a situational opener. A situational opener is one which relates to the environment and situation you and the woman are both in at that time. By using a situational opener, you immediately establish some common ground between you and the woman: your surroundings. For example: “I don’t hang around here that much, is it always this busy?” That’s a pretty vanilla opener, but that’s a good thing: it won’t scare the woman away. She will feel like she’s an expert being asked for her opinion in this case. “Yeah, pretty much. I think it’s because there are lots of places to eat around here.” You can then transition into a very short story relating to what she has just said. “Yeah! I saw this guy walk out of a little bar just down there and he was staggering about the place like he was going to explode. Then he puked all over the sidewalk. It splashed up on this old lady’s shoes and the look she gave him was priceless.” This very short, unusual anecdote (try to make yours based on truth) catches the woman’s attention. It isn’t boring, it’s funny and rare. She can’t help but comment on it and tell you that not all people around this area are like that. “You’re not drunk right now are you?” “Aha ha! No way,” she laughs.
• You need to use your common sense when making approaches on the street. If a woman is walking in the opposite direction to you, it’s going to be very difficult to stop her and start a conversation without her thinking “Why is this guy stopping me? What does he want? I need to be somewhere in 5 minutes.” So don’t attempt this kind of challenge without first developing some pretty fine skills at daytime approaches.
• The more static a woman is during the day, the easier she’ll be to talk to and attract. A woman working at the deli counter of your supermarket is a hundred times easier to charm than a woman on the move.

That’s a start. Make sure your body language is solid and your conversational skills are well developed before attempting day time approaches—especially if you dislike the idea of getting shot down, either metaphorically or actually. Use your head, be polite and genuine and make sure you smile a lot.

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How to Get a Second Date with a Girl

How do I arrange and do a Day 2?

The 16th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

A Day 2 is the second time you properly interact with your ‘target’ girl. So, let’s say you meet, interact with attract and close a girl in a nightclub. You mention that tomorrow you’re doing some shopping with some friends and she should come along—she says yes. That shopping trip is your Day 2. But Day 2s don’t also have to be the day that comes directly after your first interaction. Day 2 just means the second main event or interaction you share with your target. The reason Day 2s deserve some explanation is because they can make or break your chances of dating a woman. If your Day 2 goes wrong, you can either fall into a woman’s ‘friends’ category or just fall off her social radar altogether.

So, what are the rules which must be followed to ensure your Day 2 with a woman goes as well as possible?

Your work is not over just because a Day 2 has been arranged

Lots of men think that once they’ve got a girl’s number and/or arranged a second meeting with her, it’s plain sailing—their work is done. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Lots of your work is still ahead of you, but stage one (initial attraction and mild comfort building) is certainly out of the way. Don’t make the mistake of arranging a date as your day two. Just don’t do it—no dinner dates, no restaurants, no coffee and cake with just you and her, no trip to the movie theater. You need to avoid clichéd dates at the start of your relationship with a woman (the first three interactions or so).

You MUST avoid the common mistakes a lot of men make on Day 2s

They are:

• Amplifying too quickly/being too keen, too soon
• Amplifying too slowly/being too ‘cold’, for too long
• Falling prey to clichéd dating rituals (as just mentioned)
• Showing they’re inexperienced
• Sacrificing their value
• Going straight to “you and me”
• You must aim to gradually achieve the following goals
• Build more mutually felt rapport and comfort.
• Increase the mutual tactility more and more.
• Maintain attraction and build it further.
• Learn more about each other.
• Develop in-jokes and things that are unique to you and her.
• Silently establish in both of your minds that, as time goes on, you’re becoming closer and more of an item.

All of those things need to be done at the right speed. If you increase tactility too quickly on your Day 2, the girl will think you’ve adopted her as your girlfriend and will freak out as a result. If you don’t amplify things like tactility and comfort quickly enough, however, you’ll be sending the girl mixed signals—you’ve invited her yet you aren’t capitalizing on her being there. You could easily fall into her ‘friends’ zone by being this slow to progress things.

During your Day 2 (to be honest, and all of the time) everything you do and say around the woman should fit with the following summary of your personality and lifestyle:

You are a popular, confident man with lots of friends of both sexes. You keep your social calendar pretty full, but still live your social life at a relaxed, enjoyable pace. When you’re with people you know, they can’t help but enjoy your company. When it comes to dating women, you adopt the following position. You are passionate about meeting new people, male and female. You simply enjoy it. It fits right into your general attitude towardslife: to have fun and explore. When you meet new girl, you at first treat her like you would any new friend.  You don’t rush things, simply because you don’t need to. Rushing through the ‘getting to know you’ phase would show that you rarely meet new people, especially women, which isn’t true. You don’t have any hidden agendas when it comes to dating women. Why would you? You don’t need to care about when you’refirst going have sex what the girl thinking because these things always take care of themselves. You’re capable of getting to know a girl at a relaxed pace but without it getting boring or going stale. Women love this because it fits in with what they need. They want to get to know you more because they’re attracted to you. But  they want to take it at a comfortable pace. They don’t want to skip right to dinner-dates, candle-lit meals and buying roses and chocolates because these are things couples do when they’ve been together for months, not days or weeks. You feel the same. You don’t want to skip to formal, conventional dating either. In fact, the thought of dating the girl in this kind of way doesn’t even cross your mind. You just want to hang out with her more, no strings attached, no promises of what’s to come and no pressure. But this isn’t about being a hippy and practising ‘free-love’. It’s just about being a socially high status guy who regularly brings new women into his social circle and also enters theirs. If things go well with you and a girl, you’ll take it further. Simple. No stress. It’s a mutually beneficial situation. The girl wants to be your girlfriend and you want to be her boyfriend. You aren’t soul-mates, you’re just two people enjoying each other’s time, personalities and, of course, bodies.

everything you do and say around the woman should fit with the following summary of your personality and lifestyle

That may not sum-up your current approach to life, but it is the impression you should give the woman on your Day 2.

So, do things like.

• Make your Day 2 a group event.
• Don’t rush into “you and me” talk, like you’re already an item.
• Flirt with her but don’t drown her with your attention. Your friends get their fair share of your
  time and positive attention, because they are, after all, your friends. This is a respectable,
  attractive quality.
• You basically need to seem ultra laid-back. You laugh, you joke, you’re casual about what’s going
  on between you and the woman. You’re maintaining your social value and you’re therefore able
  to continue to build comfort between you and her, which will, in the end, lead to you and her
  having sex and/or dating.

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What to Do After Meeting a Girl

‘I’ve met this girl…what do I do next?’

The 15th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

If we’re going to talk about frequently asked questions, then this one should rank right at the top our list. The only reason it’s not placed first in this crash course is that the questions and answers have been roughly ordered to match where they fit in the process of becoming a ‘pickup artist’.

What does this question mean, then? It refers to that all-too-common scenario men find themselves in. They meet a girl for the first time and really seem to hit it off with her. Their conversation is just great—it really feels like there’s a spark between the two of them. The night, or day, ends with the guy and the girl saying bye. The guy can’t stop thinking about her. Questions are racing through his mind: “Did she love it as much as I did?” “Is she thinking about me like I’m thinking about her?” etc.

And the biggest question floating around in his brain is

“What can I do to see her again and what should I say and do when I do see her to make something good happen?”

The best way to handle this scenario, to be honest, is to not let it happen. What I mean is, from this day forward you should try your hardest to use as much the advice you’ve learned from this crash course as possible. If you do that, you’ll be much more likely to build enough attraction and rapport with a girl to set things up from the outset. You won’t need to wonder ifshe enjoyed the conversation much as you,because you’ll KNOW whether she did just from looking at her body language and listening to what she said.

But let’s imagine that you’ve done your best to build attraction and comfort with a girl and now you need to make the next step.

Here’s what you should aim to do.

• You need some kind of bridge between you and her—a method of interacting with her. This could be her phone number, her email address (not recommended), her social networking site ID or the possibility of seeing her in person (she works somewhere public, she’s your friend’s housemate, etc.)
• Once you have one or more methods of contacting her, you need to use one of them. A text is a good place to start, because it’s not too personal or intense.
• Refer to the section of this crash course on phone and text game for info on how to send the perfect text, but for now just follow this general rule: Keep the text short, light-hearted, slightly flirty and the kind of message that deserves or requires a response. Again, check the section on phone and text game.
• After a few messages have passed between you and her, you need to suggest the idea of meeting up somehow. DO NOT suggest a date—you don’t know her well enough yet. Tell her you’re going to do something with your friends and she should come along to protect you or something.
• The next time you see her, whether it’s part of an event like the one just suggested, start building attraction and comfort in the way you should have when you first met her, and go from there.

It’s hard to explain everything you need to do to make an extended early relationship with a woman progress positively in just a few paragraphs, but the advice above should get you started.

Source: Black Belt Seduction Crash Course by Matthew William Sharpe

How to Build Comfort with a Woman You Just Met

How do I build comfort?

The 14th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

Comfort has been mentioned a few times so far, so before going into how to build it, let’s define exactly what it is.

Comfort should come after attraction. Comfort is a feeling of trust and relaxedness between you and a girl. It is a bond that has been created through extended conversation and it can only be achieved gradually—you can’t build comfort in the first 2 minutes of your conversation with a woman.
So, why do you want to build comfort with a woman? Sexual attraction is often not enough to make a girl feel that kissing you, or doing more, is something she immediately wants to do. It’s too risky because she doesn’t truly know what kind of person you are. She knows she finds you attractive, but you’re still somewhat of a mystery to her. She therefore needs to know that you really are a good guy, with good intentions, who she can trust and get along with. For her to feel all of this, there needs to be comfort between you and her. Here is how to build comfort:

• At first, you will probably talk to your target as part of a group. You will therefore not be able to (nor should you want to) only talk to her. You will have a general conversation, in which you will demonstrate your high social value, your social intelligence, you sense of humor, etc.
• After the conversation has been going for about 5 minutes, the girl should have become somewhat attracted to you, or at least attracted to the idea of talking to you in more depth, to find out more about you.
• At this point you need to partially isolate your target. You need to move into a position where privately than before. The other you can stand or sit next to your target and talk to her a bit more members of the group can talk amongst themselves (having a friend of yours nearby to help this happen is a good idea).
• During your one-on-one conversation with your target, you can step up the banter and teasing a little bit. Once you notice a few strong signs that she is attracted to you (refer to the section of this crash course which deals with how you can tell if a woman is attracted to you), you can think about increasing the amount of tactility that’s going on.
• Slowly build the attraction further. Bring one of her friends into your conversation, or one of yours. You can switch to talking to someone else entirely, then return to your target. Just generally work your social magic.
• Once you’re ready, you can isolate your target a little more. Move away from the group a bit bypossibly going to a seating area or the bar with her. Now you can start a longer, more personal conversation with her. Drop the flirting just a little bit so that she can see you’re genuinely interested in her (which you should be!). Talk about topics that you couldn’t talk about when you first met her, because they would have been too hard-going and deep, like her hopes and her past. Tell her details about your life which you wouldn’t share with random people, but don’t pour your heart out to her for ages.
• Start engaging in extended tactility, like placing and keeping your hand on her knee for a minute or so. She should be initiating tactility too by this point.
• By now you should be able to kiss each other. Use what you learned in the last answer to make this go smoothly.
• Return to the group—comfort has now been established and can continue to be increased over the next hour or so, or however much longer you have left together.

That was pretty much a description of the perfect process of attraction and comfort building. Your interactions will always vary form this model, because that’s the nature of real life. Sometimes the girl will go and dance and leave you in the group, sometimes she’ll give you mixed signals—but whatever happens, make sure you focus on building comfort after attraction in roughly the same way as what was described above.

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When and How to Kiss a Woman

When do I kiss the woman and how do I do it?

The 13th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

Kissing a girl is a big move for most men and takes a lot of guts to carry out. But honestly speaking, most guys make more out of it than is necessary or warranted. They see more of an obstacle than is really there. You’re now going to learn a few simple facts and rules that will together make kissing girls much, much easier. There are two parts to getting it right every time. First you need to know when a girl is ready to be kissed by you.
Possessing this skill will clearly give you a massive advantage when dealing with the whole “first kiss” thing.

• Women will signal their sexual interest in you before you kiss them by touching and making physical contact with you every now and then. Pay attention to how and with what frequency girls touch you. They might casually brush your hand with theirs, tap you on the thigh to get your attention, or touch the outside of your upper arm while talking to you. When you notice these moments of contact, take them as they’re meant: as signs the girl feels physically comfortable with you and likes your company.
• Look for other signs a girl is attracted to you too. Is she playing with her hair? Smiling at everything you say? Refer to the ‘How can I tell if she’s attracted to me?’ section of this crash course. Check the index to find it.
• Unless you’re in a loud club, on the dance floor and unable to hear each other, you’re always going to need to talk to a girl for a while before she’s ready and willing to kiss you. The club kiss is the exception to the rule because some people in some clubs behave differently to other people in other places. Forget about kissing a girl without first having a conversation with her. 95% of the time you’re going to need a good deal of verbal interaction before you can kiss her.
• Trust your gut instinct. If you feel like the girl is having a good time with you and you’ve been interacting with each other for a while (60 minutes and over is usually a pretty accurate benchmark), then seriously think about kissing her. Use the rules that follow to do it.

Here’s how to make the first kiss easy.

• When you go in for the first kiss, you MUST do it confidently and spontaneously. Firstly, because women find confidence and spontaneity attractive. And secondly, because if you show any hesitancy or doubt about kissing her, she’ll feel similarly. If, however, you make it seem like the smallest thing in the world, she’s likely to think of it in the same way.
• Most of the time you can’t go from talking about mundane things like the weather and work to suddenly leaping in and kissing the girl you’re with. You need to already have flirted with each other using your body language AND your topics of conversation and comments. Don’t be crude and talk directly about sex though, unless she brings it up first. Instead, tiptoe around hot topics to create a strong sense of sexual tension.
• If you simply cannot seem to find a way to go from talking to a girl to kissing her, use a verbal bridge. That means overtly stating what you want to do. That’s  right: you actually bring up the topic of you kissing each other. Don’t be afraid to do it. Once again, women appreciate and find your ability to be outright and spontaneous attractive. They find it a relief, because most men are so unsure themselves can takeforever to get things rolling.

When it comes to initiating the first kiss with a girl, just remember the golden rule:
Make it seem like nothing and that’s how she’ll see it. Have faith in the rapport and sexual chemistry you’ve so far established with her. And be overt and blatant about the idea of kissing each other if going in unannounced isn’t your style. If you’re upbeat, unembarrassed and confident about the whole thing, she’ll be bowled over and only too happy to kiss you.

If you still feel like you need some specific words to say to set up the kiss, try the following. After lots of attraction and some comfort has been established and once you KNOW the woman is sexually attracted to you, get into a slower, calmer conversational mood. It should be just you and her. If she’s with friends, they should be at some distance to make this go as smoothly as possible. Look at her, then move your head back a bit, like you’re looking at her whole face. Smile just a little bit. When she says, “What?” you say, “I’m really struggling to hold back from kissing you. Is that bad?” The likelihood of her saying yes is staggeringly low. You’ve effectively said “Shall we kiss?” without the intensity and expectation those words carry. She will either respond by saying “No” or something like “Not really.” Either way, from her reaction you’ll know if she wants to kiss you. If she looks at your mouth and goes quiet, kiss her. If she laughs and looks away a little bit, like she’s slightly embarrassed, leave the kiss till later.

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How to Get a Girls Number

How do get her phone number?

The 12th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

The simple answer to this question is: if you can sexually attract her, you won’t need to get her phone number, because she’ll practically throwing it at you. Of course, this question is more about exactly what you say and do afterattracting the woman to make getting her phone number a smooth, stress-free action.

There are three pre-requisites that you should make sure are in place before you attempt what’s known as a number-close:

3 Prerequisites for a  number-close

1. There MUST be sexual attraction. You need to have spoken to each other long enough for her to feel attracted to you in a pretty big way. Use your knowledge of female body language, along with your gut instinct, to determine how much you have or haven’t attracted your target before you do the number close.
2. There should at least a little bit of comfort developed between you and your target. Comfort happens after attraction has been established. It is created through slightly deeper one-on-one conversation, during which you discuss more personal topics, likes dreams and ambitions.
3. You should be suitably distant from her friends. If you’re in the middle of her friends when you ask for her number she might feel uncomfortable, even if she’s attracted to you.

Next, no matter what words you use to propose the idea of you and her swapping numbers (which is a lot better than you just getting hers), you should deliver those words in the following way.

• Confidently. If you’re nervous, the number close won’t go as smoothly as it could.
• Clearly. No mumbling or stuttering allowed
• Directly.In conversation, it’s important you don’t quickly skip from subject to subject because doing so shows that you don’t really care what you talk about with the girl, just that you are talking to her. This lowers your value in her mind, because you’re putting her on a pedestal that says she deserves special attention and adoration. In closing, a similar concept applies. When you’re specific in your closing suggestion, you show that you are interested in doing a particular thing with the girl; something you’ve thought about and decided would be fun.

When you make the suggestion to the girl, she recognizes this and likes it–-which makes her say ‘yes’. However, if you are vague in what you suggest when you close, the following message is conveyed to the girl: “I don’t really care what we do or when we do it, all I know is that I want to see you again!” If the girl is VERY into you, she might not mind this too much, but as a general rule, you should avoid sending this kind of message. Instead, take a much more laid back approach, make the proposal specific and deliver it confidently.

Probably the best method you can use to close is to ask her she if wants to join you and some of your friends to do something soon that is already planned. This is powerful because it shows…

• You have a good social circle.
• The situation won’t be too intense for her, because it won’t be one-on-one.
• There will be other girls there for her to talk to.
• The event is already planned, so you’re not just inventing it for her sake.

Obviously you need to be able to arrange a real event with some your real friends to use this closer. It is definitely something you should aim to do though. When she agrees, swapping numbers is the most natural and expected thing you could possibly do—how else could you arrange anything? It’s perfect. It makes the number swap so easy.

Source: Black Belt Seduction Crash Course by Matthew William Sharpe

How to Touch a Woman You’ve Just Met

How do I touch a woman when I first meet her?

The 11th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

Tactility (physical touching) is a vital part of interacting with women if you plan on sexually attracting them. Without it, it’s nearly impossible to transition from stranger mode into a woman’s partner prospect. Tactility is what should separate your relationship with a new woman from her relationship with any other guy in the venue (as well as the banter, flirting and teasing you and her are engaging in). So, how do you start tactility off on the right foot? Or any part of her anatomy, for that matter.

Your first goal when it comes to tactility is letting the woman know that you are naturally tactile person. You aren’t a groper, you’re just comfortable with mutual physical touching. By establishing this fact from the outset, you’ll be able to transition into frequent instances of tactility without it  seeming like a sudden shock to the woman. If you go from no touching, to suddenly resting your  hand on the woman’s knee, it will feel intense and forced, like you’ve suddenly decided to get things moving. You obviously don’t want this.

Two very good ways to establish tactility early on are:

The shoulder touch

You lightly touch the outside of the woman’s upper arm as you say something energetic or funny. If you do this wrong, it will seem extremely random and scary. So wait until you know it will feel natural—but don’t wait all night. If you can’t pull off the shoulder touch, you can do a bit of…

Hand tactility

Our hands aren’t a very intimate part of our bodies, because we’re always touching stuff with
them, shaking other people’s hands, etc. So, they are an excellent place to start when you first initiate tactility with a woman. After your opener, transition into normal conversation. Keep the conversation flowing in a fun way, with a bit of joking and teasing thrown in—there should be high energy throughout. Now transition into a topic that relates to men and women in some way.  For example, “Yeah, my little sister is like that. You know what’s crazy, she’s 12 years old but has the same size hands as me. So either I have the hands of a little girl or my sister is a mutant freak.  Obviously I reassure her that the second thing is true. Here…” You then raise your hand palm outwards. The girl in front of you will lift hers and place it against yours to compare sizes. If her hand is roughly the same size as yours, you can quickly say “Mutant freak” then move your hand to the next girl. This is a GREAT way to tease your target and initiate hand tactility with her. Use this routine, because it’s golden.

Source: Black Belt Seduction Crash Course by Matthew William Sharpe

How Should I Talk to a Girl?

How to  keep conversation flowing

The 11th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

YOU:“So, you from around here?”

HER: “Well, I live about half an hour away.”

YOU: “Oh, right. You been here all your life then?”

HER: “Yeah, pretty much!”

YOU: “Cool. And…erm…what kind of stuff do you like?”

HER: “I don’t know. Normal stuff really.”

YOU: ”Cool. Bye!” *RUNS*

This is a pretty typical example of the problem men face when in conversation with a woman they barely know, whom they’d love to sexually attract. Because they’ve never met, they don’t know anything about each other. As a result, they’ve got all their work ahead of them. They need to cover hobbies, likes and dislikes, favorite music, current dating status, where they live, what they work as…blah, blah, blah. It’s hard work sometimes, which is why some women don’t enjoy the idea of launching into long conversations with guys they don’t now (and who are probably only talking to them for one reason anyway).

So, based on these facts, you should start all conversations with women in a very specific way; it should be fun, unserious and NOT too deep.

• Don’t start reeling questions off at her. She WILL answer them, but she probably WON’T enjoy the conversation, because it’s so one-sided. Think about it, is you asking a hundred questions a good demonstration of independent high social value? No. Why do you care so much? Whyaren’t you laid back enough to allow HER to speak and ask you questions?

• Avoid the standard questions until later. Don’t ask what she works as…don’t ask anything like that. If you have to ask a standard question, make sure it’s preceded and followed by a fun, unusual statement or question.

• Learn the art of prompting. This is a great way to give the woman an opportunity to speak without asking her a question (which can feel way too much like an interview). She says something, like “Well, I wouldn’t say I LOVE my job. It’s okay.” And you prompt her to speak
  again by saying something like “Yeah, I bet you’re always wandering around the office talking to all the boys.” Think how much better a slightly teasing statement like this is than a question like “How long have you worked there?” Most men never venture out of the safe zone when they’re in conversation with women, which is no doubt why they never get to venture into attraction land with those same women.

• Remember that you don’t need to always be in a one-to-one conversation with your ‘target’ woman (if we have to use the word ‘target’). In fact, it’s often better to be talking as part of a her of the threesome (you, plus the target, plus one of your friends or friends).This releases a lot of the tension because neither you or your target has to be speaking to keep the conversation alive, thanks to that extra person. You can also say things to the third party person that tease your target. You can ask them questions about her in FRONT her, of which always fun.

• Finally, as long as you stay really relaxed and don’t look panicked when the conversation slows it should be fine. If you feel you and target down bit (don’t immediately jump in to save it, etc.), slipping into the standard back-and-forth conversation model, switch it up by bringing someone else in or taking her to meet your friends at another location within the venue. Keep things  changing and the conversation will keep on flowing.

Source: Black Belt Seduction Crash Course by Matthew William Sharpe

How To Know If a Woman Is Attracted to You

Is She Into Me?

“How do I know if a woman is attracted to me?”

This question is a little bit slippery, so we need to break it down a bit. The question can mean a few different things, depending on who the word ‘she’ is referring to and what kind of ‘attraction’ you’re wondering about. For example, this question could be asked about the following scenarios and produce three very different answers on whether or not a woman is attracted to you.

1. I’ve been married to my wife for twenty years. Is she attracted to me?
2. There’s a girl in my biology class who I talk to quite a lot. Is she attracted to me?
3. I’ve just started a conversation with three girls. 2 minutes have passed, is the one of the left attracted to me?

Today we’ll mostly focus on the kind of scenario described number three. In a way, this kind of scenario is the purest you can get. The women have only just met you. They have no preconceptions of what you’ll be like—no one has told them about you. They can only judge you based on what you look like and what you say and do. this situation, how can you determine whether or not a woman is attracted you?

Main signs of female attraction

• Lots of extended smiling
• Giggling
• Looking up at you, tilting her chin down
• Moving closer to you
• Teasing you to see how you’ll react and to get you to tease her back
• Touching you in any way

Here are the detailed things to look for:

• Head and Face
• Arms and Torso
• Legs and Feet
• Voice/Speech

General/Behavioural Changes

• She moves in closer to you so that your bodies are less than 12 inches apart.
• She mirrors your actions a moment after you’ve made them. For example, by taking a sip of her drink just after you take sip of yours.
• She uses flirtier language and smiles in a mischievous way at you (women will only tend to do this if you yourself are flirty).
• Your gut tells you she is enjoying your company and is attracted to you. Trust your gut if it’s giving you this impression – the chances are that you HAVE been picking up on positive signs from the female and that they are good indicators that she’s sexually attracted to you.

Remember that no woman will ever give you all of the signals and signs listed here (imagine how much she’d be doing with her arms, legs and head!) Instead, you’ll notice a few of them. For example, exposed wrists, a tilted head and lots of words that signal agreement with what you’re saying. You’ll develop your attraction-detection ability over time, but when you’re just starting out, focus on just a few of them.

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