Why The First 20 Seconds are Most Important when Meeting a Woman

First Impressions with women: The Initial 20 Seconds make ALL the difference.

Here’s how to make the absolute best impression on a girl you’re trying to attract.

We all know about first impressions and how important they are if we want the person we’re meeting to like us.

You should always remember that first impressions formed when trying to attract, are very different to those made at other times and in other social situations, like job interviews.

When you utter your first word to a woman, a clock begins to tick.

20 seconds later an impression has been formed that, although not impossible to change or correct, is cemented in the female’s mind.

Female first impressions of you consist of two things. First, how much the girl likes you. Things like confidence, physical appearance, social proficiency (how well you handle conversation, etc.) are all factored into this first component of the first impression.

The second component is what your intentions are, or what the girl guesses your intentions are – these can be two very different things, but either way your chances with the girl can be destroyed if she perceives your intentions to be anything but likeable and attractive to her.

So, always bear in mind that during the first 20 seconds or so of meeting a girl you need to focus on appearing more attractive and confident than at any other time during your conversation with her.

You also need to ensure you don’t come on too strong and give her too much attention, because doing so could make her think you’re trying to pick her up, which in a girl’s mind is almost always a negative thing.

If you get the first 20 seconds RIGHT, then your chances of successfully making a connection with your target are increased up to 86% (according to our in-field tests).

What Should You Do in the First 20 Seconds?

1. Use an direct or indirect opener.
2. Introduce a false “reason to leave in a second” to relieve pressure on the target group.
3. Use correct body language for the circumstances (alpha, friendly, open etc)
4. Start pre-built conversation routine…

And we’re at 20 seconds… And you’ve opened the group.

NOTE: You know WHAT to do in the first 20 seconds, want to learn HOW to do it? Check out Black Belt Seduction

5 Vocal and Speech Signs That a Woman is Attracted To You

Reading Female Body Language – Listen and Interpret

What a female says, how she says it, and the tone/inflection in her voice are important factors in determining how she’s feeling.

5 Vocal + Speech Signs in Women

A girl may have sexual interest in you if:

1. She interjects while you’re talking with enthusiastic words and phrases like, “Really?”, “Yeah…” and “Mmm…” This shows that she wants you to know that she’s interested in what you’re saying – a good way of getting you to like her back.
2. She matches your speech speed and tonality. This means that she’s speaking at the same rate as you and with similar inflections and nuances.
3. She echoes some of the phrases and words you have primarily been using. For example, a few minutes after you’ve said it, she might also use the word “gigantic” or say the phrase “Do you know what I mean?”.
4. The general tone of her voice becomes more enthusiastic and happy-sounding. She is quicker to respond to the things you say and not afraid to interrupt you. This shows that she feels really comfortable in your presence.
5. She uses the words “I”, “my” and “me” more often to get you thinking and imagining her as much as possible in your mind’s eye.

Go on to the next in this series on reading women’s body language, or check out the more thorough and comprehensive techniques, theories and tactics in Black Belt Seduction

Is She Attracted to You? You Need to Watch Her Legs and Feet

Womans Feet

Female Body Language – Feet + Legs

While interacting with a woman you’ve just met, or a girl you’re trying to impress, its important to read the signs that her ENTIRE body is emitting. Her legs and feet are no exception.

She’s attracted to you if:

• She brushes her thigh up against yours more than once.
• She crosses her legs and POINTS THEM IN YOUR DIRECTION. This accomplishes two things. First, it makes her legs look longer to the subliminal male mind(which is turn-on and attractive because it indicates youthfulness, and therefore fertility, in the female). Second, by pointing them in your direction she’s signalling that it’s you she wants you to notice her and her sexy legs.
• She crosses her legs, dangling her foot with her shoe hanging a little way off. Women wearing high heels do this a lot. It’s a subliminal message that, as well as doing what’s described in the for point before this one, says: “I’m tired and about ready bed…”
• She crosses then re-crosses her legs the other way. This doubles the effectiveness of crossed female legs, because of the very noticeable movement that’s involved in the action of re-crossing them.

Go on to the next in this series on reading women’s body language, or check out the more thorough and comprehensive techniques, theories and tactics in Black Belt Seduction

10 Things You Need To Watch in a Woman’s Arms and Torso

Reading a Woman’s Body Language – Torso and Arms

In addition to reading a woman’s head and face for attraction signals, you can tell a lot about how a woman is feeling (and if she is attracted to you) by what she does with her torso and arms.

How to read a Woman’s Arms and Torso

A woman may be attracted to you if:

1. She drops any physical barriers that were present between you and her. For example, her arms held across her body or drink held in front of her chest.
2. She strokes the back of one of her hands with the other, drawing attention to her soft skin and the idea of caressing it.
3. When she makes gestures with her hands, they move in close to you for a moment, perhaps even touching you briefly.
4. She pulls her upper arms tight in to the sides of her breasts, making them look fuller and more pert.
5. While you talk, she rests one of her elbows in the palm of her hand while holding her other hand palm-up.
6. She gently encircles one of her wrists with her hand and glides it up and down her arm.
7. She exposes one or both of her wrists to you. This indicates that she recognizes and likes your dominant presence and shows that she’s happy being submissive to you.
8. She sits with her torso facing in your direction with good posture, not slumping.
9. She fingers and plays with her jewelry, especially her necklace.
10. She touches your hand, shoulder or thigh while talking to you.

Go on to the next in this series on reading women’s body language, or check out the more thorough and comprehensive techniques, theories and tactics in Black Belt Seduction

16 Signs You Can Read in a Womans Head and Facial Expressions

Reading Head and Facial Signals of Women

Signs of Attraction- Head and Facial Signals

If a woman is attracted to you, she will exhibit one or more of the following signs:

1. Eye contact increases. She holds your gaze for longer, more intense periods before looking away.
2. She starts to smile more than before. When she does smile, you can see that the muscles around her eyes crinkle just a little – indicating a genuine smile.
3. She nods more while you’re talking, showing that you’re on the same level and that she agrees with what you’re saying, even if you’re not making a specific statement or expressing a definite opinion on something. Combined with wide open eyes and a smile, increased head nodding is a very strong sign a girl is attracted to you.
4. She tilts her head slightly to one side. This head gesture indicates that she subconsciously wants you to know that she’s listening and interested in what you’re saying.
5. She licks her lips more often, drawing your attention to her mouth, which is a secondary sexual feature of the female body.
6. She purses/clenches her lips LESS often. Pursed or tensed lips are often signs a person is a little bored. Women don’t mind tensing their lips around people they’re not attracted to, but will rarely do it when talking to men they feel sexual chemistry with—simply because they need their lips to look attractive and inviting.
7. She bites the inside of her cheek LESS often. This is the mouth’s equivalent of the twiddling of our thumbs. The less she does it, the better it is for you and your chances with her.
8. She tilts her head downwards a little, lowering her chin down closer to her chest and widening her eyes at the same time. Women subliminally do this because it makes their faces more attractive to the basic instincts present in the male brain. Bigger eyes appeal to the male sexual psyche.
9. Conversely, women often lower their upper eyelids a little when they’re attracted to the man they’re talking to. They are often known as “bedroom eyes” and are reminiscent of the facial expression seen on women’s faces when they reach orgasm. When women give you bedroom eyes while you talk to them they’re indicating that they’re in a sexual state and want you to know it.
10. She gives you a sort of slightly sideways glance instead of positioning her face so it’s looking directly at you. This is a woman’s way of creating sexual tension between you and her. The sideways glance is saying “chase me”.
11. She tilts her head to the side slightly. It’s not only a sign she wants to appear to be listening to you and everything you’re saying, it’s also a way of exposing her neck to you and therefore appearing a little vulnerable. She sees you an attractive, dominant man wants and you to know it.
12. She flicks her hair from one side to the other. Doing this accomplishes three things. First, it draws your attention to her long, feminine hair (a positive feature in the male evolutionary brain). Second, it exposes her neck (see previous point). Third, it’s a noticeable, attention-grabbing motion. The movement makes you want to look at the person that’s made it. Just like when you’re walking down the street and you see movement naturally glance direction see what it is and what it could mean to you, your safety and your general situation.
13. She draws your attention to her mouth by touching or stoking her lips.
14. She rubs her face, head or neck for a moment with one of her hands. This raises her arm, drawing her breasts up, closer to your line of sight and exposes her underarms – an effective way of blasting her pheromones out in your direction.
15. This one mainly applies before you approach and start talking to a girl. She makes eye contact with you, then, a split second after your eyes meet, looks away and turns her head either downwards or to the side.
16. Her blink rate increases, which draws your attention to her eyes and long, fluttering eyelashes.

Go on to the next in this series on reading women’s body language, or check out the more thorough and comprehensive techniques, theories and tactics in Black Belt Seduction

4 Things You Need To Do To Boost Confidence with Women

We previously talked about The 10 Rarest Qualities Of The Extinct Man.
Today, I’m going to go into more detail about how YOU can emulate or create these qualities so higher quality women will want you.

Here they are again… 10 qualities women are looking for in men

1. A leader
2. Popular
3. Confident
4. Funny
5. Have social proof (be attractive to other women)
6. Be socially competent and have social intelligence
7. Strong/protective over loved ones
8. Looks/body (have good genes for her offspring)
9. Emotionally wired correctly
10. Have power

See, don’t for a moment assume you have to be all of these things. You just need to DEMONSTRATE some of these qualities…

A good way to look at it is demonstrate 1 of the above and you WILL be attractive to many women. Demonstrate 2 of them and you’ll be approximately TWICE as attractive… but get this, it increases your success exponentially… So that means, the more you demonstrate the rarer you become… and the more women want you.

Remember, most “nice guys” with average or poor success with women will *demonstrate* ZERO to ONE of the qualities above (remember, it’s not about BEING these things, it’s about DEMONSTRATING these things to your target female)… So, if the average guy has ONE of the above covered, let’s say he’s funny, OR he’s confident, OR he’s pretty good looking then that’s ok… But it’s NORMAL. AVERAGE…

NOT rare at all.

You NEED to be RARE. You NEED to be the almost EXTINCT man…

You NEED to be RARE. You NEED to be the almost EXTINCT man… And just getting 3 or 4 of the qualities DEMONSTRATED and demonstrated CORRECTLY will put you MILES ahead of the game.

So, hopefully now you see what I’m getting at, let’s talk about a quick exercise you can do today that’ll HELP develop these qualities so that when it comes to me showing you how to STEP-BY-STEP DEMONSTRATE them, you’ll be ready…

Now you need to be ready to step out of your comfort zone a little with this but if you DO, you’ll be massively
rewarded… and… Remember, this system is SO powerful, you can screw up on lots of it and it’ll still work out, so don’t sweat it…

We’ll start with confidence.

To generate attraction in  women you need to have the confidence to talk to them.

I don’t care where you are at right now, whether you have bucket loads or you’re a shy guy, either way, try this…

1. Make small talk with 5 people you don’t know TODAY… It doesn’t matter about what. Talk about the weather! It really doesn’t matter. Remember to smile.
2. Go into at least 3 shops with women working in them and ask questions about a product and or buy something… and when talking to them USE THEIR NAME at least 3 times, it’s usually on their name badge. Remember, again, smile, be friendly and don’t be creepy.
3. As you walk around a mall or park or wherever, just say “Hi” to 10 people with a smile. Men or women it doesn’t matter.
4. This one’s optional and for those really wanting to step out of their comfort zone. Dress in something really strange, like a big jumbo Jackson five hair piece or something and walk around for 20 minutes in a crowded place, just smiling.

This will do WONDERS for your confidence. Don’t believe me? Try it. It’s all about stepping out of your comfort zone and making an effort to do so.

There are LOADS of other ways to massively boost confidence, and some much less embarrassing ones inside the full Black Belt Seduction course, but these should be enough to get you started.

Please, leave comments below if you have anything (good or bad!) to say relating to this article.

Get more ideas in Black Belt Seduction by Matthew William Sharpe

Opening Routines to Start Conversation with Women

Hot Young Girl

Some Great Basic Opening Routines

Once you have the confidence to APPROACH a girl/s the first thing you have to do to attract women is to “open” them.

Opening is NOT built to attract, it’s simply to OPEN conversation and allow you to start demonstrating attractive qualities about yourself and flipping “mental attraction triggers” in their minds.
This “attraction trigger” flipping is done by the way of pre-practiced ROUTINES.

Yes, you go into every approach knowing EXACTLY what you’re going to say and how you’re going to steer the conversation – just like a stand up comic would.

YOU will have the control.

The approach WILL change, but you’ll have routines you can use to adapt to any situation.

Some guys say, well, if I’m using routines, is that really jusybeing me?

Well, of course it is, because they become YOUR routines… and they are only there to give you the greatest chance of being able to build enough attraction to be able to “freestyle” with the girl you just met… and just be yourself.

Here’s a few simple but effective openers

Remember, these are NOT built to attract, they are there to OPEN.

1. “Hey, can I get your opinion on something?“
2. “Oh my god, you look just like this girl I knew from high school“

Openers can be as short and simple or long as you want them to be as long as they open effectively. For dozens and dozens of TRIED and TESTED openers that have VERY high success ratios, check out the first few belts of the course.

Here’s an example of a slightly longer, more complicated opener from Mr. M.

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The ‘Do me a favour!’ opener for attracting women If you can get a girl to do you a favor, you automatically create a connection between you and her.

As soon as she agrees to help you out, she’s obligated to spendingtime doing something connected to YOU.

You need to choose the favor carefully though. Too big and there’s a chance she’ll say no.

Too small and she’ll be able to complete it quickly and therefore forget about you quickly too.

Here’s a good one you can use:

Walk up to a girl or a couple of girls who are talking to each other and say,

“Hi. Could you do me a favour?” Don’t give them time to respond to this, just continue by saying, “I’ve got a problem with this phone (hold a cell phone in your hand). I need to test it. Could one of you hold it for a minute, I’ll go over there and call you.”

Chances are at this point they’ll be interested but still a little unsure of you and what you’re suggesting. So smile
and with a real air of confidence, say, “It’s okay. It’ll be fun! What’s your name?”

Once they’ve agreed to help you out, move away from them so you’re out of sight, around the corner or something. If you’re at all worried about the safety of your cellphone in their hands, get a wingman (a buddy of yours) to keep an eye on them from a distance.

He can also watch to see what they say once you’re out of sight and then report back to you a little later. When you’re out of sight, don’t call them for at least 3 full minutes.

This will seem like an eternity to them.

They won’t know why you haven’t called.

Is the phone broken? Have you tried calling yet? What type of guy leaves his phone with some girls he doesn’t know?!

All they’ll be thinking about will be YOU and the situation they’re in with you.

After 3 or 5 minutes, call the phone they’re holding for you using a wingman’s cell. It’s up to you what you say, but be playful.

After chatting to them for a minute or two, go back to see them and quiz them on how it sounded and if the call went through okay.

The advantages of this opener are plenty. It’s fun, different and unusual.

The girl or girls interact with you three times in this opener. First when you approach them and ask the favour, second
when you call and speak to them (a nice touch is asking the one who answers to put her friend on the line after 30 seconds and then playing with both of them, being flirty etc.), and third when you go back to them at the end.

That’s three times the impact of any other conventional opener and guaranteed to be different enough that they won’t see it coming as a “pickup”.

Now go straight into some routines. Simple…

Get more openers and more effective, advanced routines in Black Belt Seduction by Matthew William Sharpe

10 Rarest Qualities of the Extinct Man

Most men are unsuccessful with women. Period.

It’s a fact and established “law” that 80% of women want 20% of men.

It’s called Pareto’s principle.

Pareto’s “law” applies to almost everything in life.

80% of results are gained from 20% of actions.

If you’re not in that 20% of men that get 80% of the success with women, it sucks doesn’t it? It  means you have to watch the same guys getting all of the best women. But you know what?The BEST thing about being a man today is that women are not exclusively looking for good looks, great body, money or whatever.

They are looking for everything: women want the whole package these days.

We’ve unravelled the mystery of exactly what women want… Even though, most of it they don’t even realize themselves!

… And we’ve broken it down into 10 easily trainable parts.

We call these parts…

***The 10 Rarest Qualities Of The Extinct Man***

Why do we say men with these qualities are extinct?

Because they are SO rare, that if you can just emulate a few of these qualities, you’ll find yourself in the top 20% of attractivemen.

If you manage to master all 10 of these qualities and let them “become you”, you’ll be amongst the rarest… Almost extinct… 0.1% of highest quality men that ALL women want. That’s what we’re doing here… Teaching you how to use these “mental attraction triggers” that short circuit women’s minds and generates massive unstoppable floods of attention from women.

Then, once you’ve gotten a few of these qualities mastered, you can use our step-by-step system for meeting women and generating massive attraction for you in their minds. But let’s not get ahead of ourselves…

Here are the 10 qualities of the extinct man (there are MORE but that is highly advanced material beyond the scope of this free web course). When you read this list, don’t let any of them put you off thinking “well, I am NOT this or that…”

…See the thing is, you don’t even NEED to BE these things… there are ways to flip the “mental triggers” in her mind so that she’ll ASSUME you are these things without you ever needing to say it, or even be it…

The 10 Rarest Qualities Of The Extinct Man

1. The leader (at work, socially, amongst peer group etc)
2. Popular (people want to know you and be around you)
3. Confident
4. Funny (have a good sense of humor)
5. Have social proof (be attractive to other women)
6. Be socially competent and have social intelligence
7. Strong/protective over loved ones
8. Looks/body (have good genes for her offspring)
9. Emotionally wired correctly
10. Have power (be willing to use resources to protect her

As I said, there are MORE, but these are a good start…

If you can just flip 5 of these mental triggers, you’ll have her WANTING YOU BADLY…

Seriously, this material is powerful enough to create total stalkers out of the most gorgeous high quality women that you would never dream would want to stalk you right now, I’ve been there… more than once. It’s a great feeling to know women want YOU… And exclusively you. It’s like you short circuit their brain to only SEE and THINK about YOU…

Anyway, this post is getting a little longer than I wanted it to… I’m going to tell you more of the “do this” “do that” details in my free email newsletter. You can sign up for FREE here. I’m not going to lie, I’ll try to sell you on the full advanced package I have available, but not before I give you a TON of free stuff in your inbox. Sign Up now

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How to Handle Text Messages from Women

How about text messages?

The 20th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

They should follow similar guidelines to phone calls. Make the first few you send funny and quick. Ask her a question, like:

You need to invent your own based on:

• Your sense of humor
• Her sense of humor
• How much banter and jokiness there is between you and her

When the text is funny and not pressuring her into replying to you (if you said “Do you want to see amovie tomorrow?” in your first text, she’d feel pressured) she will happily reply with her own funny, flirty message. THEN, after an exchange of positive texts has taken place, you can send one suggesting you do something (like a group event). That way, the proposal is mixed into lots of positive emotion and it therefore feels healthy—the woman can easily feel comfortable about it.

More advanced tips stemming from these are available in the free Black Belt Seduction Crash Course by Matthew William Sharpe

How to Handle Phone Calls from Girls

How do I handle phone calls properly?

The 19th in our 20 Methods You can Use to Attract Women series.

It’s not possible to spend all your time physically with your new ‘prospect’—the woman you’ve attracted and, hopefully, had a Day 2 with. There are going to be lots of in-between times, when you’re not in each other’s company. It’s therefore important that you don’t let the positive dynamic between you and the woman go stale during these times, considering how lengthy and frequent they will be, especially towards the beginning of your relationship.

So, then, how do you handle phone calls and texts in the right way? How do you avoid coming off as
a loser who is pestering the woman for her attention?

Let’s start at the beginning. How should you handle the first phone call you ever make to her? It will probably occur either on the same day you meet her (making it about 5 hours after you meet her is good) or one or two days later. Here are some ground rules.

The phone call should:

• Be quick. It should NOT drag on any further than it needs to.
• Not be an attempt to arrange anything. This same-day call is NOT the call you’ll make to arrange your Day 2 with the girl. It serves a different purpose, which you’ll learn in a moment.
• Be fun, upbeat and flirty. The call must be a positive, enjoyable verbal interaction. It should flow easily and have something simple and straightforward as its subject matter.
• End on a cliff-hanger style comment. The call should end with you saying something quick that functions as a cliff-hanger style comment—something that makes the girl think, “I want to talk to him more!”
• Seem as much as possible that it’s justified in some way. The girl will subconsciously know that
  you’re calling because you want to speak to her, but you should still make the call seem as much like it has a real, justified purpose as possible. This way, you preserve your social value, while still getting to talk to her.

Here is an example call which follows all of the rules above. You call and get her answer phone. Or, if she picks up, you freestyle by pretending to be her doctor. She’ll laugh the whole time. “Oh, Hi. This professor John Mac….erm… Macaroni? We met earlier in Eden (insert the name of the real place you met). I’m just calling to give the results of your test. Erm, yes, here we are. Yeah, I’m afraid you’ve tested positive for a hairy back and you have a 40% percent chance of developing a mono-brow. The results for the explosive flatulence test havn’t come back yet, I’m afraid. I’ll get to you on that. No, seriously, though. This is John, I was calling to ask you something, but I’ll speak to you soon. Seya.” You say it in a clear and confident way without sounding like you’re trying hard impress her make her laugh. You’re relaxed it and you don’t string out the “This is about John, I was calling to ask you something, but I’ll speak to you soon. Seya” bit by umming and ahhing.  All of your phone calls should be free from tension. Make them last only as long as they need to and follow all the rules of good conversation that you follow during face-to-face talks, like demonstrating high social value, being funny without being outcome dependant, etc.

More advanced tips than this are available in the free Black Belt Seduction Crash CourseMatthew by William Sharpe

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